Tuesday, September 26, 2017

Lifelong Education....

Greetings Friends...
or should I put "some" friends....it's always a toss up for me, it seems. I go in to something with pure intentions and it might be a ticking time bomb. It has happened multiple (and I mean multiple) times before, but my naivete is everlasting it appears, even at 47 years and being knocked around a lot, I still believe in the kindness of others...

I think for most of you....
when you read my blog posts, for some reading them for many years, you have come to know who I am as a person. I don't embellish. I don't puff up. I don't do anything other than share my heart. Share it like I would if you and I were sitting down at my kitchen table for a cup of coffee. With me, what you read (or see, or listen to - depending on what mode of delivery you follow me under) is what I am. 

Yesterday...
I shared my Patriotic Room. I have been working very hard on it over the past year. I think you all know that, or again *most* of you know that. When a neighbor of mine does something and puts a lot of work into something, I am one that always wants to see, wants to compliment and pat on the back for a job well done. Again, that's who I am. Yesterday, I was feeling down a bit because today, I bury my friend Anna. I met Anna in her home when I was a Eucharistic Minister to the sick. Her son had a terminal illness, I brought the Eucharist to them since they could not attend church. That was six years ago. In those six years, her son passed away, she was left with no family that resides in this town. I and a handful of other parishioners from my church did our best to incorporate her into our families. She passed last Thursday after a short illness and today (9/26/17)  I bury a friend. One that I am proud to have known and one that left me a better person from knowing her. 

I digress...
so being a bit down, I thought...I'm going to share the one thing that always lifts me up ~ my handwork. So I shared my Patriotic Room . WHY? because many of my needlework friends know I've been working on my room and many have asked to see it. It was perfect timing in my book.

It was a simple post....
filled with a couple of the things I love best: My Country and My Handwork.
Writing and sharing my pieces did the trick...my spirit was lifted and I went about my days work with a smile in my heart, as I usually do....

Last evening....
I received a private e-mail indicating that the stars I have in my window, the ones I show in my post, should be removed especially if they were Gold or Blue, because I was representing myself as being something I was not:
A Gold Star Mother or A Blue Star Mother

Oh my stars....
are not blue and they are not gold. My stars (if you blow up the photo - which is quite easy to do when you click on it) are clearly white ...however the vein of the letter was not to build up and educate, it was to point fingers and tear down. Don't we have enough of this going on all over the world? I believe so, but that is an opinion, so take it or leave it. One thing I can affirm, my position in life is NOT tearing down. 

So I'm going to build up...
because even though I was torn apart last evening, I became educated in something very important, thanks to the private e-mail I received. Although the author was incorrect in the assumption and even incorrect in the subject matter, it made me delve deeper and now, I can help us all understand more fully.

I was of course...
upset at the tone of the letter, because I thought I had done a grievous error and being that I am a complete rule follower ~ when I do wrong, I nearly kill myself to correct my errors, my "wrongness".  I was so upset. I even began to cry (likely it was a multitude of things: Anna's passing, I've been working nonstop, hormones, the helpless feeling like I can never do anything right when I'm judged mercilessly)
So... I am sharing with you, my readers, a beautiful tradition that I have never witnessed on a personal level. I have heard about different color stars before, but didn't understand the significance, nor the significance of their display in a front window of a home. Now I do, thanks to a note directed at me in a negative way. I think it important that we all note this tradition, the significance and deep meaning behind it, and flip a negative into a positive. It's all about learning and growing.

Please click on this photo to be taken to my FLICKR album to be able to read legibly:
Taken from the 2009 Military Dispatch
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Click HERE to read about a real life GOLD STAR Mother: For Gold Star Mothers, A War Without End

and here is a photo of a home of an Active Serviceman and the banner their family put in their window to represent their son's service to our country: 

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See...
I was not trying to make myself to be something I am not. Rather my wooden stars that I painted myself in buttermilk basin and have hanging in all 18 windows of my home represent me: A proud  American that loves my country, supports our military and stands for the Flag and for the people that live here, even if some of those people like to take shots at me. 

Until next time - when I get brave enough to share again....
I'll be treating my neighbor with kindness, because kindness matters...
I'll be measuring my words, because you never know what another person is dealing with....
I'll be smiling, because there are far too many people that don't smile.....
and I won't be judging, because everyone does that for me.

Love in stitches, 
Vonna xxxx

106 comments:

  1. There are some people Vonna who are so miserable that their mission in life is trying to make other people miserable too. They resort to vicious attacks, sometimes trying to hide their malice by saying they just want to help, educate, inform, etc. It's evil, pure and simple. If you let them pull you down they win. You lead with your heart. Every single time. You spread joy. You love your life, your family, your work, your country, your God. And you are loved. The best answer, the only answer really, for people like your attacker is to pray for them. I love that you have stars in your windows and my dad, who fought and was wounded in WWII would have loved them too! Blessings, Marlene

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  2. Oh, Vonna. I am one of your faithful readers, for many, many, many years, that rarely comments, but loves hearing about your children, your husband, your family and adopted loved ones, your creative pursuits, your commitment to your beliefs and how you always try your very best to live and act on them, sometimes feeling that it did not turn out as planned, but accepting with grace and humour and taking a lesson from it, then dusting yourself off, remaining positive, caring, happy and continuing on your path. I want to offer my condolences to you and your family on Anna's passing. It saddens me to read your post, not because of the email or the specifics of the person's issue, but because you act with the purest of intention and with generosity and kindness and that was not what you were met with. Even if you had made an unknowing error, the reception you received was not one that was merited. I know you and you are already doing what you do best, being the best person you can be and example to your family and us all. Take care ((hugs)) from Canada.

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    1. I'm sorry that someone hurt your feelings. I can only say I hope and pray that the person wasn't a teacher. There's certainly a correct way to show us our error's if they think one has been made.
      It's a sad cruel world we're living in. I'm not really good with words. Just wanted to say I LOVE your patriotic room and wished I could a room as well as you have.
      Sometimes people should think twice before hitting that send button. But sadly it doesn't happen. Sometimes they're just so miserable that they just don't have any other way of life but to spread that misery. Again, I'm sorry it touched you. We just have to pray that their lives get better so that they can see things differently.

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  3. Dear Vonna - I am so surprised that anyone would think you're usurping something that doesn't belong to you. Anyone who reads your blog knows better. Your patriotic room is simply beautiful. it is so typical of you to take something negative and turn it into a positive learning tool for all of us. Thank you for this. Condolences on the loss of your friend.

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  4. Oh.My.Good.Heavens. Some people just need to get a life. I'm so sorry Vonna, for the loss of your friend. Life is so fragile and we truly never know what another is going through. Just keep being yourself as you are. God knows you and your intentions. Much live, Cathy...p.s. I am really uninformed because I knew nothing of stars in Windows until today. On that note, I can't wait to go see pictures of your patriotic room. Sounds delightful! ♥️🇺🇸♥️

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  5. My sympathies on the loss of your friend...Thank you for sharing this information appreciated as always many blessings to you for how you conduct yourself. Peace..

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  6. Vonna...I will never understand why some people are only happy when they are making someone else miserable. I ALMOST feel sorry for them - what a horrible way to spend the little bit of time that we have on this earth! You are a very special, talented, caring person and even though we've never met in person, I feel like you are a friend. I love seeing your work - it is an inspiration to other stitchers! And, please accept my condolences on the loss of your friend.

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  7. Un abbraccio forte per la perdita dei tuoi amici. Continua a condividere i tuoi ricami con noi Vonna, sono meravigliosi

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  8. So sorry for the pain you are experiencing in the loss of your dear friend. Anna. I only know you through your videos & social media but due to your openness & generous spirit, I feel very close to you. I admire you & hope you never change ❤️ Hugs

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  9. Vonna, I am sorry for the loss of your friend and I am sorry that you received an e-mail that was hurtful to you. I love4d the pictures of your patriotic room and never in my wildest imagination did I take your stars as anything but decorations. I knew about Gold Star Mothers as my Grandmother was one but I didn't know about Blue Stars. My thoughts will be with you today as you celebrate the life of Anna.

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  10. Dear Vonna, as someone whose grandfather served his whole life, a father who served through two wars, and a husband who served during Vietnam, I was proud of your room and patriotic decorations. The men serve quietly but we can show our support. As I have said before, the internet allows many to show their true colors. We know how kind your heart is and we all have to learn to disregard the hate that is shown to us. Delete, block and ignore is what has to be used. I bet that woman is neither a blue or gold star mother in real life. If she was, her child would not appreciate her hateful attack. PS: you gave a great lesson to us all in your kindness to Anna. Ana Indy

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  11. I can't understand the thought process of the email writer at all. I even looked again at your pictures to see if I missed something.Your cheery stars in your windows certainly did not bring to my mind the service banners. Ach! people :(. Thank you for taking their lemons and making lemonade in the form of educating us all about the banners.
    I am very sorry for the loss of your friend. There is comfort in knowing she is reunited with her son but your loss still hurts.

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  12. As a Blue Star mom, thank you for posting about the stars. I'm sorry that you were informed about the stars in such a harsh manner. Vonna, please know that I am praying for you and all of Anna's family and friends.

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  13. I was just thinking about you and Anna the other day. Sorry to hear of her passing. I knew about the gold stars but didn't know about the blue ones. Sorry you had to find out in such a hateful way. God bless you for all the kindness you share with outhers

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  14. Condolences on your friend, so sorry for your loss.
    And I'm sorry about the email someone sent. Your stars look lovely and patriotic and I would never confuse them with the gold stars or blue stars.
    Please continue to share your talents with us.

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  15. Please continue to share. I look forward to each and every one of your posts. I am sorry for the passing of your friend, but know that she is in a better place and that you will see her again.
    Blessings, Patti

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  16. I am sorry for the loss of your friend, Vonna. I remember you mentioning her in one of your VLOGs on Floss Tube. And I would have reacted in the same way regarding the email because I am a first born rule follower and I want to do what is right as far as I can. But you took it as an opportunity to share with us here in Blog land and that is a good thing. Blessings to you today.

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  17. Thoughts and prayers for you as you celebrate Anna's life. I want to say that I always love your blog posts. Your partriotic room is so inspiring and I found the pictures and your wor uplifting yesterday. There is so much negativity and divisiveness in our country and I didn't feel that in your post or any of your posts. Hang in there. It's a tough season but you are supported and appreciated. Blessings.

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  18. I'm very sorry, Vonna, to hear about your dear friend and fellow-parishioner Anna's passing. I absolutely remember her from many mentions here on your blog, and feel sad to know she is gone, though a short illness IS a blessing!

    Please let me encourage you: I really admire your hardworking-ethic! Regarding the email's tone, "When people know better, they do better." Another way to say that is "when the only tool in your toolbox is a hammer, everything looks like a nail." It's okay to look at it all as being about the sender, and her experiences, how she has learned and the only ways she knows to talk to others. Hope your day is full of love, Berit. ❤️

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  19. I am so sorry for the loss of your friend Anna. Your light shined in her life as it does in all you touch. Thank you for sharing your handiwork and educational tutorials with all of us. Your patriotic room is beautiful! Vonna, keep letting Your light shine out on all of us - we are all better for knowing you! God Bless you.

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  20. I might be one of those people that doesn't smile when you see me out in a store or something, but that is because I've been treated so badly. I get criticized no matter what, and it does have it's affect. I'm really a very nice person, but the world does take it's toll. I understand how you feel. Finally, my condolences on Anna's passing. I remember you speaking about her in your early videos. I'm sure you were the bright spot of her last years. She was so lucky to have you. Take care.

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  21. Sorry about the loss of your friend. I knew about the stars and say nothing wrong in what you were doing. Know that you have many people the love and support you in what you do. Keep posting as I love to see and hear about your family and projects.

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  22. My deepest sympathy as you mourn the loss of your friend, Anna. I am also sorry that you were treated so harshly and unfairly. I love your patriotic room and love the stars in your windows! I have always tried to live by the motto: If you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all. I wish others would take that to heart also, especially when they don't have all the facts. Happy Stitching, Eva

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  23. Oh for Pete's SAKE!!!! Some people need to get a life, Vonna! I have always loved your pics of your home...and the reader "thinking" you mis-represented a Gold-Star Family is unfounded. SHE/HE needs to read the post you just put up.
    That said, your work is beautiful as always...your attention to detail, both in your life and your life's work, is admirable. I'm an empty nester and still can't figure out how you do it all: family, sports, academics, church, stitching, finishing company, community/church service to others, cooking, baking and the list goes on. Keep your head high...we all love you and appreciate the glimpse into your family's life and your love of stitching!
    Marla

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  24. I am so sorry about your friend Anna and I always enjoyed you sharing about her on your blog. I am so sorry that someone made you feel bad about your patriotism. Hugs for you!

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  25. Vonna, I am so sorry to read about the passing of your friend, Anna. You and those who loved Anna are in my thoughts and prayers. Sending gentle hugs your way.

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  26. Vonna, your patriotic room is beautiful! Thanks so much for sharing it. I am so sorry you were 'educated' in such a harsh way. Thank you for educating me. I knew about the yellow star but not the blue star. Words are so very powerful.
    I am so sorry for the loss of your friend Anna.


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  27. Hmmm... it's a long way from sharing your gorgeous patriotic decor with us to misrepresenting yourself as a gold/blue star mother and I for one cannot see any connection in your lovely blog post. Hang in there, Vonna, and please don't be afraid to share your heart with us. Don't let any comment rob you of your joy!
    My deepest sympathy in the loss of your friend, Anna.

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  28. So sorry about Anna. Your room is beautiful! Thank you for sharing.

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  29. My condolences on the loss of your friend. My goodness your stars are nothing like gold stars displayed by mom's who lost loved ones. Sometimes people should do a bit of research first. I feel like the whole world is on edge these days. I wonder why? Thank goodness I can go upstairs to stitch and be happy.

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  30. Vonna, I'm so sorry about the loss of your friend, Anna. Your patriotic room is just lovely. Thank you for taking the time to share it with us. That email was just spiteful and mean spirited. I'm an Australian living in North Caarolina and I didn't know about the stars. So, thank you for sharing that information. I also want to say thank you for the time and effort you put into sharing your skills and talents.

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  31. Vonna dear ~ Do not allow that poor soul (read that emotionally impoverished) to throw you into an exercise in scrupulosity. Most of us rejoiced in your sense of patriotism and its expression through that beautiful room filled with your handwork and creativity. Pray that that sad person will be awakened to the path you so earnestly follow; being kind and restoring hearts.
    The gift of love and caring you gave to Anna through the years mellows this loss, for you have brought joy and comfort into her life and that of her Son.... I don't know
    about others, but I am so danged proud to know you and grateful to read your wonderful blog.

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  32. Your patriotic room is beautiful and inspiring. Echoing the sentiments of others here, I don't understand how anyone who reads your blog would mis-interpret the stars in your window. I knew about Blue Star and Gold Star mothers and it never occurred to me that you were trying to signal or copy their display. Honestly, some people just go out of their way to cause trouble. Sorry for the loss of your friend, Anna. That is never easy to deal with. Take comfort in the love and support of your friends and family. Hugs!!!

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  33. Uh...,ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!!!

    Vonna we've talked about this before. DO NOT let the YAHOOS tear you down! The rest of us love that room! I told ya that when you sent the new pix of your floors. That room is scrumptious and I want it in my home. I think I'll rush out and buy those stars the weirdo-without-a-life is so stressed about. Sheesh! And I want that sweet flag pillow you did too. She probably didn't get her fix and is just taking it out on everyone. Sorry but you Bloggers work so hard on these posts. And I enjoy them so much. So let the ding dong witch have her fun. She's enjoying her popularity for now. But ignore the YAHOOS! They DON'T MEAN NUTHIN!

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  34. Oh my Vonna, I am so sorry you have had to endure such negativity. Please tell me this will not deter you from sharing on your blog. I have followed you for several years and enjoy seeing your work and learning from it. I must admit that I sometimes wonder how you accomplish all that you do. You must have vast stores of energy. As the mother of a Marine Corp. veteran and mother-in-law of a Navy Officer, I was not offended at all by your Patriotic room. In fact, I was inspired to do more for my patriotic room. Please keep up the wonderful work and sharing your knowledge. God bless you!

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  35. So sorry you had such an unpleasant response to your lovely posting...it is sad that someone would berate you in such a manner when you clearly meant no disrespect...I always love seeing our work and finishings. So sorry for the loss of your friend...God Bless you.

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  36. I am so sorry for the loss of your friend. I recall you speaking about her in one of your videos.

    I loved your post yesterday and it inspired me to want to create my own Patriotic room.

    Sending hugs to you.

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  37. I'm so sorry about the passing of your friend. I enjoyed your post about your patriotic room and would never have even thought that your stars represented anything except stars and a love of your country! I'm sorry this person was so harsh.

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  38. I have just recently found your blog and this is the second post I have received and it brought tears to my eyes. You are clearly a lovely and inspiring person so for all our sakes, please keep sharing. Your patriotic room is beautiful and obviously done with love and care. I am so very sorry to hear of the loss of your friend.

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  39. I am so sorry to hear of the passing of your friend. It is never easy knowing that they are gone from us here but in Heaven are celebrating and having a reunion - I guess maybe we're a bit jealous. :-)
    I am a former blue star mother - my daughter was in the Navy and a Navy vet myself. I know from reading your blog that you would never intentionally hurt someone or do something incorrectly that would cause hurt.
    We do learn from our mistakes (even though you did not ere) and we also learn from others. Another life lessons in a long line of lessons, I guess.
    You have blessed so many of us and I am grateful for your loving and giving heart. May God continually Bless you in ways you can't even see.

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  40. Whoa... having just read the post about your great Patriotic room, this post surprised me! But... sometimes people let their emotions dictate their typing. Not a good idea! Your post and pictures were a true delight, and I KNOW you meant no slight to anyone from it! I did not know about the Blue/Gold Star program. I have lived a few (!) years more than you, with more than half of them in this area, which is HIGHLY military! Never have heard mention of it. I am so sorry this person's email was so hurtful. I hope that you can remember that you have MANY friends out here in cyberspace who DID not email you to tell you unkind things! We love and appreciate you and all the time you spend sharing your wonderful stitching and finishing with us! You inspire so many of us!! I know this was a difficult post, considering you just lost a dear friend also. Condolences to you, your family and church friends. With a sincere heart, Hugs!

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  41. Dearest Vonna...first of all, I'm sorry for the loss of Anna...secondly, I'm sorry your tender heart was doubly bruised by crass and careless words. Your room is such a tribute to this country that we love. But I do thank you for informing us of the military symbolism of blue and gold stars displayed in the window. I had no idea.

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  42. Gonna, as usual, you stand above the fray and turn something negative into something positive. I will not guess the reasons you received the private email, only that the person must have had some sad experience with respect to the Stars, which caused the writer to lash out. But you ultimately handled the situation beautifully. Thank you for the enlightening information about the Gold Star and Blue Star. Condolences for your friend's passing. You and others made the last year's of her life happy.

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  43. I am so sorry in your loss of someone who has become such a big presence in your life. May you always carry your memories of her in your heart. What a blessing you were to her during the last of her years.
    I am also sorry to hear that someone felt it necessary to hurt you, sigh........why do we do that? I, like you, try to see the best in people and in situations....always trying to learn and trying so hard to not hurt someone with my words or my actions.
    You continue being you, you are perfect in the eyes of God, and in this life that is really what matters most of all. Be who He created you to be and love others like He does...we cannot control the actions of others unfortunately, but we can choose to not be like them. (hugs)
    Sandi

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  44. Dear Vonna,
    I am sending you a big red, white and blue hug!!!!!!! Your sharing and caring are evident always and I am thankful for your spirit!!! Sending lots of love!!!

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  45. Oh Vonna. I am so sorry this happened to you. You are one of the kindest people I have ever come across in the stitching world, and the internet world in general. Some people are just so miserable that they are compelled to tear down. I will never understand why they want to spend their precious lives that way. Fortunately, you *do* know how many of us love you, and it's a far greater number than that one person who made you feel awful. Sending much love to you today and always. I am sorry you lost your friend. -Linda (I comment as BlueHorseYellowCow on your FlossTube channel)

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  46. Vonna - so sorry for the loss of you friend, Anna.
    And I am sorry for the harsh words. Most of us never even thought of such a thing - just always enjoy seeing your works, home, and your family - Dee

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  47. First, I am so sorry about the passing of your friend! Yesterday's post was lovely, I enjoyed looking at your beautiful handwork and the decorating you had done. As the child of an army vet, a wife of one and grandmother to a young marine it never crossed my mind when I saw your stars. Only how much I liked them. Please put your mind at ease. Hugs,

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  48. Vonna, I too, am sorry for the loss of your friend. I am sure you were a blessing and a great comfort to her. Just wanted to let you know I thoroughly enjoyed your patriotic room and once again, felt a bit jealous of how American's so beautifully are able to express their love for their country. God Bless from a Canadian friend who enjoys your blog and thinks you are a lovely person.

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  49. Vonna - Thank you for your post and the sharing of your life. It's unfortunate that someone commented on your room in such a negative way. Maybe they didn't mean it that way, even though it's how it came across. I applaud you for taking the experience and turning it into a positive learning experience for us all. Athough I don't comment on all your posts, I do read each one and enjoy knowing you and your family. I liked what you did with your Patriotic room... stars and all!

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  50. Vonna ~ I am so sorry for the loss of Anna. Losing a friend is always so very difficult. And I am sorry too, for the negativity sent your way. I always enjoy your blog and love seeing pictures of your home, beautiful family and the lovely work that you do. Thank you for sharing your kindness and gifts with all of us. Hugs, from one of your Canadian neighbours, who thinks that you are beautiful, inside and out!

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  51. Oh Vonna, I am so sorry that some people are so ignorant! I loved your room and home pictures and never gave the stars in the windows a thought like that! My grandma had a gold star banner in her window because my uncle died in WW2.

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  52. Sorry about the passing of your good friend. Oh, my, that person needs a life. I knew about the blue and gold stars, it never entered my mind that you were doing anything wrong. You were just decorated in red/blue/white colors. This is from a person who's father, husband, and 2 son-laws where in the military and also lost a brother in Vietnam.

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  53. You just keep doing what your doing...if people can only say negative things about someone then we don't need them in our lives. I come from a military family and I think you displaying your stars in your windows and patriotic decorations are wonderful... Sorry for your loss of your dear friend hon..
    Hugs, Sharee

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  54. Oh Vonna so sorry to hear the passing of Anna I know she was such a special and dear friend to you! I always get such Joy when I read your blog please don't let one person's ignorance Take You Down you have the heart of a teacher and you have taught so many of us so many wonderful things and are continuing the Legacy that our own mothers are not able to do. please friend know that you are loved and that we feel blessed by having you in our lives and that person needs to have their e-mail taken away XO

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  55. Condolences on the loss of a special friend. May God Bless you and the other parishioners, I'm sure you meant the world to her. It's so sad that some people in this world are alone. I'm sorry that someone brought tears to your eyes. There's nothing wrong with educating someone (as you did us-how interesting) but do it in a nice way (again, as you did). Take care and God Bless.

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  56. First my sympathy in the loss of your friend, Anna. May the memories of brightening her day give you comfort.
    Second--Oh my--whoever wrote you sure wasn't educated in the star banners. I have a blue star banner hangning. Our son has served in Iraq, Afghanistan, and now is in Qatar (Army National Guard). It is a banner NOT a single star. Military people and their families know the difference! Thank you for your patriotisim. It is much needed in this country right now.
    And your room looks awesome! Thanks for sharing!

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  57. As another Blue Star mom I would never have mistaken your star decorations as anything but decorations. I'm sorry anyone used this to upset you at such a time.

    Thank you for taking the time to explain to others what the blue and gold star banners mean.

    And may your happy memories of your dear friend bring you some measure of comfort.

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  58. Wonder what they would have to say about the rusty strand of stars hanging around my birds of a feather mystery sampler? SOMETHING, I'm sure! Sending hugs and sorrow on this sad day for you! Just try to remember the smiles on Anna's face the times when you shared your love with her! ❣️

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  59. Vonna
    A wonderful post as always. I feel sad that this person has to be like that. I hang gold stars in my window at times but as i don't live in the USA it doesn't bother me. Who is to say that one persons beliefs are those of their neighbours. It is always drawn to me how our conventions (generally most western nations have similar ones) can be the antithesis of others. I think i will be thinking of our Kiwi and ANZAC soldiers every time i see my blue and gold stars hanging in the windows.

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  60. The loss of a friend is so tragic. Please accept my most sincere sympathy. Blue and gold star mothers, families actually, are acutely aware of what the 'real thing' looks like. You are so unabashedly proud to be an American - do not let a negative comment stop you from sharing your patriotism with us. You are a treasure to us, Vonna. Hugs from Massachusetts!

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  61. Vonna, my heart goes out to you today over the loss of your dear friend Anna. You are one of the sweetest and most giving people I know. I feel blessed to call you my friend. I am sorry some people are not kind with their words. I loved seeing your beautiful patriotic room.

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  62. well I am "almost" speechless ! I will say that you need to just move on and relish in all the positive comments you have rec'd on this subject. I know it's been a hard day for you but God will lift you up and bring you to your happy place. Just push past this, keep doing what you do, keep sharing your wisdom, humor (still miss your flosstube) and your knowledge. I'm sorry this happened to you but press onward and upward - brush off the dust and keep on rocking sister. Hugs Mel

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  63. Vonna, It is so hard to let go of such a dear friend. God bless you for loving her. The beautiful tribute to our country is from your heart with pure and loyal devotion. God Bless America.

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  64. Hugs, Vonna. I pray that God will comfort your heart over the loss of your dear friend and that you will be comforted by all of these words of love. Thank you for sharing about the stars. I didn't know about that tradition. It's beautiful, isn't it? I love that we can all use stars as a tribute to our men in uniform - just like you are doing in your patriotic room. I hope it will encourage you to know that you have encouraged so many of us!! Blessings!

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  65. I am so sorry for the loss of your dear friend, Anna. I so enjoyed seeing the tour of your patriotic room, yesterday. The stars in your windows are obviously decorative, white stars, and not ones trying to "impersonate" military family stars. I think some people just enjoy being negative/stirring the pot for the sake of being negative. We who have followed you know even if they were like military stars you would never do so intentionally. You have always presented yourself and a true, genuine, kind, and funny person. I'm so sorry this person caused you undue distress when you were already hurting from the loss of your friend. Hugs.

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  66. Dear one .... I echo all the comments expressed here. Any follower of yours knows who you are. That is why we are your followers. Most of all .... God knows your heart. In the end that is all that matters.

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  67. I just don't know what to say. First, I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your dear friend. She too, was lucky to have a friend like you. My son is in the Army and I thought your patriotic room was just wonderful. When he was in Iraq, I had a flag in my window. I thank my God everyday that it was never a gold star. It NEVER occurred to me to question your stars. They did just look like stars to me. Please don't let that one sour apple spoil the barrel. We have all learned so much from you and your generous spirit. I guess we just share this planet with some sad , angry people. And they love nothing more than raining on our parades. Please, just stay the way you are!!

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  68. I am so sorry to hear of Anna's passing. I remember you mentioning her many times on your blog. I hope that your memories will help you get through this rough time. I'm sure she treasure all you did or her. I was also happy to see your patriotic room tour...it was wonderful to see those pieces displayed. I'm sorry that someone felt the need to criticize, but as usual, you handled the situation with grace. I feel glad to have you in my life (even if just virtually!) hugs for you...

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  69. Firstly, sorry for your loss and I agree with many others some people like to be negative and the person should have checked your photo before sending you a private email. Try not to be disheartened as you are one of the good guys (or in this case gals). Hugs

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  70. Vonna, I am sorry about the passing of your friend. And, I am really sorry to hear that someone misconstrued what you were/are trying to achieve with your beautiful room. I could clearly see your stars are white and that they look nothing like the banners that are meant to show the blue or gold star families. While it is always wonderful to learn something new, it is a shame that the tone of the lesson had to be hurtful... Being an Aussie I had no idea that stars would be interpreted as anything other than star decorations! :o) Hugs xx

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  71. Blessings and hugs to you. x

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  72. I hope you told the person who sent you that email about the stars to go and get a life. It really annoys me when people like you go to so much trouble to write on their blogs, only to have others make negative comments. Take no notice and please carry on blogging. Sandra in UK.

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  73. I'm very sorry for your loss. Others have said what I wanted to say about the email you received far more eloquently than I could. I agree with all of the above and think your patriotic room looks beautiful. I will be praying for Anna and her friends today.

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  74. Gosh Vonna, you write so well and so eloquently...I feel as if we were talking face to face. Chin up girl, we all love ya and KNOW that your stars are the 'right' color <3 Thanks for going the extra mile, as always, and sharing the background to the military use of stars in the window.
    Vonna, prayers going up today for you and Anna's family & other friends as she is laid to her peaceful rest.
    Thank you for all you do, for all your stellar efforts for us here in the blogging & stitching community, and for all the beautiful photos you share with us for our own inspiration.
    Smiles, DianeM

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  75. There are just some people that have such bitterness inside themselves. Don't let that upset you. You are very much loved in this community of stitcher. You share your knowledge and love for the craft and for that I am very grateful. I really enjoyed the tour of your patriotic room and all that you share with us. Today I am giving a friend a project envelope for her birthday. I used your tutorial to make it. Thank you for that and all your tutorial. By the way, I have just ordered a cording drill after watching that tutorial. You touch many lives with your goodness and love. We should all pray for that negative person that they will have some peace in their life.

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  76. There is not more I can say that has not been said above. I hope the person who sent you the email will read all these affirmative replies and realize how wrong he/she was. A life long quote, "You cannot please all the people all the time."

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  77. I know how this must have upset you. But .....there is a nice way to educate someone and there is a not-so-nice way. That poster COULD have taken the nice way and chose not to. Just know that there are many, MANY more readers of your blog that have your back, that enjoy every post you write, celebrate with you a love of family and country ................don't let the buzzards get you down. Hugs!!! DK

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  78. Big hugs, Vonna. I'm so sorry somebody made such a mean (and, as it turns out, incorrect) comment about your lovely room. Thank you for sharing, and please don't let the negative Nellies on the internet get you down.

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  79. Sorry to hear of the loss of your friend. Such a sad time for you.

    Now .... WHAT! Have people got nothing better to do. I had no idea about blue or gold stars. I had a look myself what these meant (being a UK-er). From what I can gather the starts have to be on banners to mean anything. Yours are clearly just stars ... well whatever, I really can't be bothered with HER and neither should YOU be. Please take care of yourself.

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  80. Vonna, you can NOT wake up in the morning without offending someone these days. Let it be water off a duck's back, sweetie!

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  81. These comments have said it all. The only thing I can add is a big Amen. You are a very kind and caring person who only wants to do good. Thank you for turning this negative into something that educated all of us. Keep on being positive.
    Kathy

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  82. Having grown up as a young girl during the Vietnam war I remember those star signs in the windows of some homes. We grew up knowing what they meant. It was such a sad time. I remember our girl scout troop wearing bracelets of men who were missing in action so we could pray for them and their families. Cute country stars hanging in a window no matter what the color are not even close to being the same thing. Lord have mercy,if something serious happens to this country how will we cope? So sad.

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  83. Vonna, First of all, my apologies to you for this person's lack of knowledge in what constitutes a Blue Star/Gold Star banner and what it stands for. I am the mother of a son currently serving our country (2 tours of duty in Afghanistan) and I thoroughly enjoyed your patriotic room and your love of our country is shown in all of the lovely work you have made to make your house a home. I have a Blue Star banner and I never once even gave a thought to the stars you had in your windows. They are just that stars. I will never understand why people need to do these things and it makes me so very sad this person caused you so much pain and hurt. I am also so very sorry to hear of the loss of your friend. You and the other parishioners were her angels here on earth. Keep strong Vonna and keep on doing what you do. Cathy

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  84. Vonna, I am so sorry you were hurt. Your house is beautiful, and as a woman who has been a blue star mother, I don't see how anyone could logically mistake the banner for your lovely stars. We need to just pray for someone like that who goes out of their way to find fault with something where obviously no fault exists. And of course I sm praying for you to feel better spiritually and physically, my friend.

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  85. Amen, Vonna. I am so proud to be a follower of your blog and videos. You have inspired me in so many ways. Keep up your good work and know people are behind you in your good deeds. Hugs!!!!

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  86. Vonna, I love your blog and so look forward to reading each post. As a Blue Star mother, your beautiful stars don't in any way resemble my banner. I pray that you will feel comfort physically and spiritually as you continue to work out His purpose in your life.

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  87. As a blogger and your friend, I know just how hard it is to open your life to the world in the first place. And then to have something you showed misconstrued and be the subject of negative comments must be very difficult indeed. Please don't let this get you down, Vonna. There are just some folks who love tearing down others for some strange reason. I love everything about your room and so admire your love for our country :)

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  88. Vonna your room is so pretty. Very classic. There are always going to be haters out there, just ignore them. The majority of this community is amazing. Don't let a couple of negative Nellys get you down. Look at all the positive feedback you get. You get a ton of thanks you on flosstube videos, just focus on those. Happy stitching

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  89. Thank you for the education. Don't be upset by those who condemn you with an uneducated opinion. Yes, those of us who follow your blog know where your heart is. I love your patriotic room.

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  90. My Dear friend, I think your patriotic room is lovely and perfect. Do not let those negative people pull you down at all! Prayers and love.

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  91. Vonna, I can't add anything new to these comments..I agree with them. I am so sorry that you had that handed to you. I don't understand why people love to prove someone wrong. It must make them feel amazing. Anyway, please keep sharing. I love all your posts/tutorials and just learning about you.

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  92. Vonna, I am sorry for your loss, both of your friend and of your joy in your beautiful room. Even with a hundred positive comments, the negative one rankles and weighs heavier than it should. Plus, the person who emailed you is just plain wrong. You can have any color star displayed in your home, window, car, wherever, that you like. I am veteran, with a retired military ex-husband, a veteran husband, and two veteran children, one of whom is combat wounded. We have displayed the blue star banner, and are happy not to have a gold star. A star is just a star, no matter the color. It does not have any meaning until it is mounted on a banner of the specfic design (size, color and shape) as specified for the Service Banner. Then, and only then, does the star have meaning. And the meaning does not necessarily indicate a child, it is simply stated as a loved one is serving in the armed forces, so it could mean a parent or other relation as well. Take that email and put it where it belongs - in the garbage and erase the negative feelings from your heart. Take the joy back and look at your stars with a renewed sense of pride. Do you have a loved one serving in the armed forces? Then get a banner and display it proudly. But your stars are simply decorations with a patriotic connotation because of the theme of the overall room decor. By themselves, they are just a shape, a decoration without meaning, no matter what color they are.

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  93. I can't add anything more to all these comments as I agree with them all. Please continue to keep all your stars hanging up! The audacity of people nowadays continue to just amaze me. I've seen previous pictures of these stars and they are just for decoration! Never once did I ever see them as being anything else. My condolences on the loss of Anna.

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  94. I actually feel sorry for someone who rained on your parade. I will pray for them - sometimes someone's misery is so deep and wide that they're trapped in it and don't have the ability to be kind. IMO they should just be quiet, but it's really not for me to judge. I think the room is lovely and patriotic and American! You've got a lot of suppor from your reglar blog readers and should you choose not to share in the future because of someone's negativity, that's sad, too. You are talented and gifted and should continue to share! God Bless!

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  95. Dear Vonna, I agree with all the comments made by others. I am so impressed that you took a negative and turned it into a teaching moment for yourself and others. Feel good about your lovely room and your posts that we all enjoy so much. I am so sorry that you lost such a lovely friend. I have lurked on your blog for quite awhile and am always so amazed at all that you do. Thank you for sharing all that you do. Lori

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  96. It seems that it is up for interpretation ... not always the same as ours. Not to worry Vonna, He knows what you meant.
    My Heartfelt thanks for sharing of yourself and your inspiring blog.

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  97. You did the right thing. I learned something new today.

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  98. Dear Vonna,
    First, I am so sorry for the loss of your friend. Big hugs❤
    And second, thank you for educating me on the Blue and Gold Stars. Although I am an Army brat, this was something that I did not know or if I did know, had forgotten.
    You have a kind and beautiful heart, so please, don't let unkind people make you sad.

    Love you❤
    Connie

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  99. Dearest Vonna, I would like to express my sorrow for the loss of your dear friend. We never truly get over the loss of a loved one, just relish in the knowledge that she is in a better place and with her son once again.
    I'm also appalled at the person who so thoughtlessly tried to tear a fellow stitcher down. Big Big hugs to you for always being the better person and letting us all gain knowledge of what gold and blue stars mean. My father is retired military and I was 3 years old when he retired with 23 years with the Navy. I had no knowledge myself of what the stars meant either. Your patriotic room is beautiful and what's more special about it, is that it's yours to do with what you want. You work harder at your crafts than anyone that I know of, including myself and I can only wish I was half as talented as you. You are a beautiful, wonderful, caring and giving person, and don't ever change for no one!
    I am in the process of gathering supplies to make 4 stockings for my grandbabies, and all I can think of, is how I hope I make Vonna proud when I "try" to put them together on the sewing machine. Because of you, I would have never even tried to do such things as putting a stocking together, or make a flange pillow, or an ornament. That's the influence YOU have on people like me. Stay strong and take comfort in knowing that out of that one person, you have thousands of others who appreciate everything you teach us and share with us.

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  100. I have come to the conclusion that some people are not happy unless they can tear down others. Your stars in the windows show nothing but beauty. You freely share and give so much to the stitching community. And most of us truly appreciate you.

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  101. Vonna-I have hung the blue star banner in my window when my husband served in Bosnia, and again when my son served in Afghanistan. I would never think to insult someone for hanging a star in their home as a misrepresentation, instead I smile when I see the patriotic pride. I am so sorry to read that you were treated so rudely. God Bless You!

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  102. Dear Vonna, you are one of the kindest, sweetest person I have ever had the pleasure of knowing. I only recently discovered FlossTube and from there, your IG posts and then I stared following your blog. In all 3 of these places, your sweetness and kindness shows through. I'm very proud of you that you can take this negative and turn it into a positive. Not many can or want to. Keep on keeping on, dear lady. Also I'm so sorry for your loss of a good friend. Hugs, Sharon

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