Friday, August 12, 2016

The Big Save....

~ Greetings Friends and Warm Welcome ~
I first want to start off this post with a very sincere


to all of those that left positive notes/comments or personally sent me positive notes/comments.
You do not know, how much your kind, considerate, thoughtful concern touched my heart.
I was struggling, I truly was, with a multitude of things that occurred over the last 2 months and it wasn't just Katie's move to college, albeit that was a very large concern.

You see...
I also resigned from my position outside the home.
For the last 23 years, I have juggled a job, a home, a family, volunteer positions, a job inside the home...and I found it very fulfilling.

8.5 years ago....
I started working at this small county hospital here in my city. What I thought would be the perfect set up, I soon realized was much the opposite. A very difficult to get along with coworker, who was in a place of authority, coupled with the fact that the hospital (due to the healthcare climate in our country) changed ownership 5 times during the last 8.5 years - spells n-i-g-h-t-m-a-r-e. That meant, any counseling, any write-ups, any issues at all in a person's HR file was wiped clean with every change of leadership. The perfect storm to cover up a perfect problem employee. After a very critical situation that I was once again placed in because of this person, and the resulting "our hands are tied, we can't do anything about this" being told to me yet *again*, I resigned. You see my job outside the home, which was in a part-time capacity, with part-time hours, and although I begged for years to be put into a  "position"..... I was never granted one. Why? Because it looked "good" on paper. I was the cheapest person on the books, because they kept me (who was working regular, part-time hours for 8.5 years) as a Per Diem employee (PRN).  What does that mean? It means: I was never paid for holidays, never got paid vacation, no sick time, no leave, no nothing. 
Zip. Zilch. Nada.
What were the benefits for working? A lot of hell and a lot of stress.
So...starting a new chapter of life. 
My last "crash and burn" blog...
was written 2 days after I had worked my last shift at the hospital. 
Yep, I didn't walk out. I had agreed to cover the vacation of a co-worker who was taking a 3 week vacation. So...I kept my word, my dignity, my values...and worked those agreed to days.
I left with my pride and my dignity.

Not only did all that happen...
but I'm also the "funeral luncheon lady" at our church Starting June 30 and continuing the following 3 weeks our parish had unprecedented deaths. 6 deaths in 3 weeks. The last week I had 2 funerals in one day and both families requested me to sing the Funeral Masses. So that meant 2 meals to plan and execute (garnering donations for the meals, ordering fried chicken, setting up, cleaning up, etc) and 2 choral practice sessions as well as 2 Masses. Katie and I arrived at 8 a.m. and left at 7 p.m. 

Some of you may be thinking....
WHY? didn't she have help? Well I did have help and donations were given, etc. However smack dab in the middle of the 6 funerals, my co-chair quit and so where I would have leaned on her, I was left to stand alone. But I got it done. I have recruited NEW CO-CHAIRS (I refuse to be the only ONE in future left to deal) and things have calmed down.

I have been learning to say NO!
I'm not good at it...but I am learning.

On to Katie....
She was delivered to college safely. 
We had a fabulous, spectacular day. I could feel of you who were praying for me. I was calm. I was cool. I was collected. Not a tear was shed in her presence. We left her in high spirits and she has continued in her little college world just as I knew she would. 
Here is a pictorial review of the 

"Dorm Day"

Katie's Room 

  Dorm desk

Dorm Panorama

Us all together one last time before we left....

Dorm Day

Katie sent me this picture the very next day....

Dorm 2016

Katie on the Canal

Katie's Scavenger Hunt Team

She is attending...
Indiana University - Purdue University of Indianapolis
She is majoring in Electrical Engineering (EE). 
She is the only female in the 2020 class of Electrical Engineering (thus the boys above)...apparently EE is one of the hardest engineering disciplines and not as popular with females as Mechanical Engineering or Biomedical Engineering, which both have high female percentages. Because she is the only identified female in the 2020 EE class...she is garnering LOTS of attention from the Engineering Dean and Professors, as they want her to be a success story for the program (and thus a sort of feather in their cap). 
Could I be more proud? 
Probably not.

I also want to highlight....
that God provides. Katie has been struggling with the fact that it may be difficult to get to Mass. She's in downtown Indy (not known for it's safety) and the Catholic Church is quite a hike, straight through the middle of downtown Indianapolis. There is not a Newman Center on Campus that holds Mass on the weekends. I have been praying about this.
Wednesday I got a text from Katie with a GUESS WHAT?!
Well, it turns out...the young lady with the glasses in the picture above is Catholic, she doesn't consistently practice, but was raised as Catholic. She saw Katie's prayer books on her bedside and crucifix and asked her Wednesday if she could be her "Mass Buddy" because she said: 
I want to practice my faith and grow my relationship with God.
If that is not an answer to prayer, I don't know what is. 
Prayer works...

In the meantime....
my other three kids started school on Wednesday, August 10. 
Here is their yearly: First Day of School Picture

First Day of School 2016

They are growing and thriving. The boys are becoming very "manly" if I do say so myself :)
Ellie is in 5th grade
Ian and Jacob are Juniors /11th Graders.

We recently celebrated Ellie's 11th Birthday, right before Katie left for college on August 5th



I've been busy in my Finishing Service...

MB_LHN Loving You HC_Brittercup Designs Kitty Tree HC_Brittercup Designs Britty Kitty HC_Brittercup Desgins Poinsettia GS_CCN Snow in Love GS_CCN Holly Jolly GS_Angel Star NS_TLS Cardinal NS_Land of Liberty bag NS_CCN Happy Holidays LW_Bowl Fillers DH_LHN Under the Tree DB_TSH America Class Set DB_Dried Marigolds DB_PSS Bowl of Scaries 1 CS_PSS Serial Bowl CS_PSS Daily Labors of theBee

This isn't even all of the finishes I've done in the last couple of months...but you get the idea ;)

Until next time...
I'm marching on, feeling good, and being a supportive, good neighbor to those that need a shoulder to lean on. Because the good Lord knows, that when I needed positive, kind words most of you were there for me and for that, I am eternally grateful.

Thank you!

Love in stitches, 
Vonna xxxx


  1. Oh what exciting times! I pray you are blessed with these many changes Vonna. Yay Katie! So neat! Our Jacob is in his senior year of nursing at Marquette University. 125 students. 6 of them are guys. A neat experience!! So different with the odds all changed up like that. God is so good and is definitely watching over dear Katie.♥

  2. Vonna, what an awful time you've had. That working situation is just not right. :( I'm glad you are rid of it and can focus on you.

    As for Katie, sure looks like she is moved right in and at home. What a feather in their cap for sure. :D I pray that she continues to love school and that she is successful!

  3. Vonna, yes, your plate has been full! I'm glad you've made it through it all with your sanity. Good on recruiting more help at the Funeral obligations with your church. That was a lot on top of everything else. Also, a big congrats on your decision to leave work. It sounds like you were in a difficult situation to say the least. Here's hoping for a little lighter load for you and a little more sunshine. :-) I'm thinking about you!

  4. Lovely to read your positive post Vonna and no matter what gets thrown at you you you have your wonderful family and your deep faith.
    Sometimes saying no is the only way to bring about change
    Beautifiul finishing work and your family photos are full of joy.

  5. Sometimes the answer to a difficult situation is just to extract yourself from it completely. I'm glad you could take the opportunity to do just that. The 8.5 years already proved that there wasn't going to be a solution. The stress isn't worth it!

    I have no doubt Katie will be successful and that you all will settle into your new normal rather quickly!

  6. What a wonderful post full of answered prayers!! I'm so glad that Katie found a buddy! Wish I could give you a big hug. You have had a rough few weeks... And years. Take some time to rest and be refreshed, my friend!

  7. Praise God you're out of that horrendous job, Vonna! And that you're learning to take care of yourself. Learning to say no is hard for a lot of us, but there is a point when it must be done. I hope you have more time as fall approaches to breathe and maybe do another Flosstube. :)

  8. I think we've all had periods in our lives like the one you've just been through where everything converges into the proverbial "perfect storm." I'm so glad you weathered yours, Vonna, and are learning to say "no." In the end, your happiness and that of your family will be enhanced :)

    Katie looks like she's settling in nicely--what a room! Wow! They have come a long way from the dorm rooms my sons had and that was just 10-15 years ago. I'm so glad she met a young woman who shares her faith--I'm sure they'll be best friends in no time.

    Love, love your finishing (as always!) and now that you aren't working in the lab, you'll have even more time to make your clients happy :)

    Hope the remainder of your summer is less stressful and more rewarding for you!

  9. Vonna, I can totally relate to a difficult work situation, seeing it through to the end and leaving with your integrity. I'm thrilled for you that you are in a much better place. I trust that God is good in all things, and I'm glad for Katie and the other places for where God is being an awesome God in your lives.

  10. Vonna, I was so thrilled to see you post this evening and to 'hear' your joy in your writing. Katie looks like she is settling in and I enjoyed seeing the first day of school snapshot of the boys and Miss Ellie. I always enjoy seeing the finishes you create for your clients. You and yours continue to be in my thoughts and prayers.

  11. Wow, Vonna, so many changes in such a short time. It sounds like you are adapting well. I can't believe your baby is 11! Although it doesn't seem like it when we are raising our children, but all of a sudden we turn around and they are grown! (Then comes the fun, Lord willing - grandparenting! My first grandchild - a girl - is nearly six months old. The time is flying!) The finishes you've done are wonderful, as always. Thank you for sharing them.

  12. One day at a time, Vonna,and you will get through this difficult time. Katie looks like she is settling into college quite well.

  13. Great Post . So happy you are now in a good place . I have learned to say no , after years of saying yes . It is hard sometimes but you have to put yourself and family first .
    Enjoy your time with your beautiful family , they grow up way to fast and now is the best time of your life hugs.

  14. Vonna, Wow, it is FANTASTIC that your daughter is pursuing EE -- what a trail blazer! Also, good to hear that you are doing well after such a hectic & stressful time.

  15. Hopefully things are calming down now. You are one strong woman to get through it all in one piece! Your finishes are fantastic and hopefully you will have more time to grow the business that you love!

  16. Vonna, so very happy to hear that all is well and you have come out the other side of all this even stronger. God does provide. Congratulations on getting Katie off to college and kudos to Katie for pursuing Electrical Engineering. Go Katie!! As usual your finishes are stunning, thank you for sharing your beautiful work with all of us. God Bless!!

  17. Oh Vonna! You really HAVE had way too much on your plate! I'm so grateful that things have worked out in so many ways, despite all the hard times you had to go through. Good news all around. Love your finishing! One of these days I have a feeling I'll be sending you some things myself.... Take care. And take care of yourself! You are important to so many!

  18. So many changes in such a small amount of time. I know how hard that can be and also know that struggles make you stronger. I always believe that when a door is closed it is God's way of forcing you to embrace a new opportunity to use your special gifts. You have so many talents and so much to share - I know when you look back at this difficult time you will be amazed and wonder why you didn't make the transition earlier!

  19. I love to read your testimonies. Always pointing to God! I don't know what people without Him do! Your little family is growing and it sounds like you are glowing. Love to see your finishes too. Keep doing what you do so well!

  20. Vonna! Such a difficult few months you have had, but what a wonderful example you have set in maintaining your dignity and integrity throughout 💜. What a beautiful family you have and go Katie for pursuing electrical engineering and being the only girl in her class! Your finishing as ever is too beautiful for words 💜!

  21. Glad you were able to hold your head high and do the right thing through this troubling time. You have a wonderful family and I'm sure your daughter will do well at university. Love all your finishing projects.

  22. Good luck in your future, you are heading in the right direction. Sometimes it is hard to learn to say No, but it is the right thing to. Your blogs have always made me fell like I am very lucky to know you. Good luck to Katie in her college life, know she will do great. My, have your other 3 grown since I started following you. My sweet granddaughter, Anna is starting her 11th year, too. Good year ahead to them.
    Always enjoy seeing your finishing's. Still learning to finish and your tutorials are always very helpful.
    Have a wonderful weekend.

  23. I admire you very much. Yu are a loving lady and even though we have not "met" I think of you as a friend. Your finishing is superb and I have learned a lot from your pictures and videos. Thank you for being you.

  24. Hang in there! It does get better! Once suggestion for Katie, look for the Newman Center on Campus! They often have Mass somewhere on campus and it would make getting Mass much easier for her and her new friend.

  25. Woooh! Now that is what I call getting it all together....
    Sometimes it takes a jolt to make one reevaluate and take the steps to realign.... You did it without losing your integrity and compass....I suspect that those who "couldn't do anything about it" are also reevaluating to avoid another
    great loss... What you give of yourself for others is remarkable and inspiring...kudos to you. No wonder Katie is such a credit to her Mom.....

  26. What a great post Vonna! Glad to hear that the employment problem is now resolved. Of course, you did it with dignity and grace! I sometimes shake my head when I hear about some of the things going on in public and private industry! The world has changed, and not necessarily in a good way! Glad to hear that Katie is at college, safe and sound, and that the other three children are also settled in school. You have done a LOT of finishing! I don't think you have ever shared that much at one time before! I like the new shaped flat fold... may investigate that. Thank you so much for sharing this great post! Hugs!

  27. From the sounds of it maybe just maybe God was trying to tell you to take care of you. No one can be the be all (I have a husband just like you--ask him to do something and it is done before you turn around if you happen not to be his wife! LOL) It is good to help others but YOU have to be happy in doing and respected. Your job problems sound horrible and they were lucky to have you for 8+ years. I am SURE they will miss you!
    I never had issues with sending my kids to school until it was college. Only 1 1/2 hours away but it might as well been 1,000. We all worry and pray they will stay on the straight and narrow and that God walks beside them. I have faith she will do well and it really helps to have the professors ears! Stay strong, enjoy the journey. MY BIG ugly cry was when we left our middle son in VA for his first job out of college. All alone (First son married right out of college and they lived in MT for a couple years before moving back near us.) I cried the whole half hour after we left him--sobs. Then youngest was deployed to Iraq. More sobs...made the VA move not so bad.... And I handled the Afghanistan deployment much better. Always hard to let go of our kids! (They never saw the melt down just hubby).

  28. Doing too much...I when I was working, on a few committees learned to say this " If I can before I heard the request" I even say to my own three children ( girls 39, son 37) I must say they usually get a yes but I try. I do have one question first day of school photo, poor Ellie has no shoes on !

  29. Oh Vonna, you have been on my heart and on my prayer list! I am thrilled that thing are on a positive upswing. Katie is thriving and your other children are too! God is so good. I cried when I read the part about Katie's Mass buddy. Oh my...your finishes are wonderful as always. Thanks for the update and I will continue to pray for all the Pfeiffers!

  30. Sweet lady, my heart hurt for you reading everything you've been putting up with - and with your job, for so long! It took me a long time to learn to say "no." Such a tiny word, with so much power (over those who hear it, and those who have a hard time saying it). Then I had to learn to deal with those that wanted to know why. LOL Hugs for you.

  31. Good for you, I learned the same lesson about saying no quite some time ago. I have been much happier and do a better job with the things I do choose to do. I love the family pictures and the stitching. You do a beautiful job. Best of luck to your entire family with all the changes and a new school year!

  32. Vonna, Strong faith, that is what always pulls us through.You are strong, kind and generous and an inspiration. You have a beautiful family and much to be proud of. Good wishes to Katie, I will keep her in my prayers as she begins this new journey. Thank you for sharing your finishes, beautiful as always. Loved your latest video. Hugs to you.

  33. Whew--lots of changes in your life can be unsettling! Just take one day at a time and redefine a new normal. Glad Katie found a church friend--

  34. Lots of good news here in addition to your tough times. I am shocked to hear that your job treated you so poorly. For shame! You are completely worth more. Love from NJ!

  35. I would say you were quite right to leave that job! Katie looks very happy at her dorm. The stitching is of course lovely

  36. Oh wow, you poor dear. It is no wonder you crashed and burned. I'm so glad to read that things are getting better for you. I'm also sorry that you were having such a terrible time at work. I have that God will open a new door for you. Glad that Katie is settled in school and that God answered both your prayers and that she will have a mass buddy. All of your children have grown so much. WOW!! Your finishing work is just amazingly beautiful. Continued prayers for you and your family.

  37. You have done well Vonna and best wishes for what comes along. Your daughter looks to have settled well in her new environment. Wonderful stitching finishes.

  38. So happy that many prayers were answered for you! I believe that you will look back one day and realize that leaving your stressful job was so right for you and your family. God opens another door when one closes.

    Glad you are doing well with the college transition - so hard, but she will make you proud.

    Love, love all of your finishing. Happy days for you.

  39. Glad your work issues are resolved. They will.miss a good and hard working employee like you were. Katie looks settled in and happy. Love all the stitched pieces and your lovely finishes.

  40. It was a big decision to resign but I'm sure it has given you piece of mind.It looks as if your daughter is settling well into college.

  41. Excelent! The decisions, the kids, the work, the finishings.

  42. Vonna - glad to hear you are doing better. Seems your life will be less stressful - no job is worth all that stress! Katie will do fine - we have an EE daughter - and proud you will be. Hope everyone has a good year! Dee

  43. God led you in the right decision. Always good to get stress out of our lives. I love your positive attitude.

  44. You sound great, Vonna! That was a lot to go through in a short period of time, but you did it. I'm so proud of you for walking away from a negative work environment and for doing it on your own terms. Love Katie's dorm room, it looks like a cozy space for her. What an answer to prayer for her "mass buddy" to turn up so quickly!

  45. Beautiful finishing as always! Glad you are feeling better about things and that you were able to let go of that stress filled job. I am the same way about saying "No". It's just part of my character to be agreeable. :) I've sent two off to college a few years ago so I can relate. Your daughter looks happy in her new college life. You've done a good job with her so she will be fine. I'm going through some stressful times myself the last couple of months and have lost my interest in stitching. It does seem to pile on all at one time, but God is good and if we lean on him we will come through it.

  46. Hi Vonna! I just happened upon your blog via Bloglovin' and am so delighted to have found you. I too am a Catholic Mom and loved reading about your faith-filled life and that of your daughters. (Although, I'm sure your entire family is awesome!) I'm a scrapbooker, not a "stitcher" but just wanted to let you know that I will be praying for you and your family. God is amazing and I know that He has great plans for you and the rest of your family. God bless!

  47. Glad the move went well, and hope things continue in a more positive way for you and your family. Are you having fun with fonts in your finishing photos? ;)

  48. WHEW! What a summer of change! Let us know how your journey goes because I have a feeling good things are coming your way!

    PS: Does your daughter have any idea how lucky she is to have such a HUGE dorm room? :0)

  49. So glad things are working out for you xx

  50. I'm glad you are out from under that horrific job. Your mental health and sanity is worth way more than they could have ever paid you. Now you control your own ship and I know you will be much happier for it. God is good...all the time!

  51. What a jam-packed post! Glad to hear Katie is adjusting well to being away at college. As for the job update, I think you made the right decision and will be much happier now. Wonderful finishes as always. :) Last, but certainly not least, HAPPY BIRTHDAY to Ellie!

  52. I have to say no matter what you have going on in your life you stay so positive! After I read your blog I have such a good feeling. You should be very proud of what you have accomplished and what you do everyday. You are not just an average person!! Bless you and your family!

  53. Good luck to Katie, and to all the "little" Pfeiffers. And especially to you as you transition to something new. Your finishing is wonderful!

  54. Good luck to Katie and I can't wait to see updates on how college is going for her. Congrats on your change in position to do your finishing work full time. Your work is gorgeous.

  55. How brave you are. Brave to take a stand and leave a toxic environment with your head held high with faith that it will all work out. Brave to let your girl fly. Even though we raise them with everything we know to be right, true and kind the world's unknowns are scary. As usually your finishes are inspirational.

  56. Wow. So much going on. I totally understand having a hard time saying no. Keep trying because you have to take care of yourself. I'm so glad to hear Katie is having such a great start to her new adventure. I wish you all the luck in the world on your adventures too. Your finishing is just perfect.

  57. I am glad things are looking up for you because you are a sweet lady and deserve the best! Your finishing work is just beautiful!

  58. I love to read your blog. I'm glad you are shedding some of the bad in your life (the PRN job). You are involved in more things than anyone I know. The kids look great and I hope Katie has a great time at college.

  59. My goodness, so many changes / challenges in your life. As one who was 'made redunant' in 2008 after 27 years with the same company, I can tell you that I am truly much happier no longer working for a very unhappy media company. You will find your new center and be a much happier person too. It sounds as though your daughter is off to a wonderful start with school and church. Blessings to you all!

  60. I am just catching up on my blogs. I am glad you left the job. My sister works in a hospital. They treat the workers horrible. I am sure a new chapter is starting. Glad to see your daughter happy at college.

  61. I am sure you know that when one door closes another one opens, the good Lord is working things out just for you.

  62. Vonna sending you lots of hugs and good thoughts for all you have gone through this summer. Love reading all the wonderful things you and your family are involved in. I wish Katie the best in her college endeavor. I know she will be a success at anything she tries. Your finishes are wonderful as always.

  63. I'm sure you found the perfect solution for you and your well being. These changes will be good for you and will bring you forward. And learning how to say no is one of the best things.
    Katie will have a great time at college!

  64. ... and your finishes are just awesome, all of them real little masterpieces.

  65. Katie looks like she has settled in well...that dorm room is awesome! All your children always look so happy and confident, although poor Miss Ellie going to school with no shoes!
    I hope all of your life changes are positive. Sounds like the work situation was a drain on your resources. Hopefully now you can take time to rediscover what is important to you.

  66. Love your blog post! I just started following you on Flosstube and your blog. I enjoy your style very much. I love your personality. You are inspirational. It seems many of us have a similar story regardless of the industry or institution. Stitching soothes the soul. God bless you and your family, Vonna.

  67. Vonna: First of all congratulations to Katie, what a wonderful school to be a part of, also congratulations to her for helping this lovely Lady out with her Faith, God does show up in very many ways and through Katie to help her roommate.
    Lovely finish's you have done.
    I am for you and hope all works out well, sometimes we just need to make changes to keep ourselves sane.
    It is sad that you had to put up with such a person and so many changes with the hospital.
    I sometimes help with funerals, it is not an easy task for me.


  68. Vonna, I just recently started following your videos and blog. I am so blessed to have found yet another crafty stitchy Catholic soul, you certainly radiate light and God's love :-) I am - finally, after 5 years! - taking the leap on starting a craft blog, and you have inspired and assured me it will all be fine when sharing my faith, which is an essential part of who I am, as well. I'll be following you around in the meantime, hehe. Thank you and God bless! - Karen

  69. Hey Vonna, I just want you to know that I have made at least a couple DOZEN project bags!
    I have made them not only for my projects but even my son's violin teacher's little girls. They just ooh'd and aah'd over mine so I made them each one.
    Thank you for being so generous with your time and talent.
    I have been saying a special prayer for you at mass. "You shall mount up with wings as eagles,you shall run and not grow weary, you shall run and not faint." God has you in the palm of His hand.

  70. Me again. That should read "You shall walk and not faint."

  71. Vonna, where to start. I just want to say God bless you love! How much strength you have, more precious than Rubies you are. Katie's looks so joyful in her new chapter & I am cheering for her with her studies. I also pray that she becomes such a light in that world, that more people come into her life, seeking the love God gives, because how how her light shines. Your younger ones look great. Strain young men, & how awesome that your daughter picked a star wars cake! So super cool. Bless you all, keep walking in truth & much love!

  72. Vonna you do inspire me! Thanks!

  73. Oh my gosh, Vonna, one is more beautiful than the other! Glad the kids are all doing well - Dee


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