Thursday, February 19, 2009

Never Give Up...

My heart is sore...and I'm at a bit of a loss. As I was driving around today doing my errands that have been on hold for a week, it struck me that I have to have something to cleanse my spirit and to fuel my fire. I realized in that moment it was writing. See, that is one of the best things that I can do. It is a God given talent of mine, I start writing and it flows and makes sense. I don't understand it - people ask "how?" and I don't have an answer. My words just happen. Through my life my writings have entertained, they have educated, they have informed, they have even been the nonsensical musings of a 38 year old wife and mother. But the words, the feelings, the emotions that my words may evoke in others are mine. Yes, those are mine.

I could go....on and on feeling sorry for myself, feeling sorry for Ben, but I won't because that is not what I should do. No, what I should do is bring Ben's story to you, so that he can change you. He has changed me. He has changed mine. Ben was a troubled youth - how could he not be when he was born into a home of a mother that was less than adequate at caring for him and his needs. He had to be a fighter to survive the conditions he was forced to live under. He was brought to my Aunt at 20 months old. She adopted him. From that point on....he was ours. We never thought of him as an outsider, as someone else's, he was our baby. We loved him with our whole hearts. At the age of 13 his Mom was taken from him by breast cancer. But even before that time, while my Aunt was sick, he lived with my Mama. Again, he was ours. Last week, seven days from this day, our baby was taken from us, but he lives on. He lives on in the bodies of three people that had no hope. He lives in the bodies of three people that were praying for a miracle. Praying for life. Ben lost his life, to be their miracle. Ben was an organ donor. He donated his organs, his bone and his tissue to help those in need. I urge you today to make sure if you feel like you would like to be an organ and tissue donor for those that are awaiting the gift of life, that you sign up to be one. Tell your family, tell your friends your wishes - for we never know the hour or the time. Ben didn't live a long life but he lived a full life. He brought love, peace and happiness - yes, always smiles and happiness - to those that knew and loved him.

I don't know...what the future holds for me, I don't know when I'll get back to every day living, I don't know when my needle and thread will hold appeal for me or comfort me. But I do know one thing. Whatever and however this blog will be incorporated into my life it will also incorporate my Christianity. To be a person of faith, to be one that loves and believes in a life after this life - has almost become like a four letter word in this world in which I live. But in order to "know" me fully and embrace me, you have to also understand my devout Christian feelings that I hold in my heart, in my mind and in every fiber of my being. I was born a Catholic, raised a Catholic and will forever hold in my heart, mind, body and soul the love of my Lord and Savior. For this gift given to me from my parents, I rejoice! This is who I am. Yet, I was sort of hiding, sheilding the truth from this blogging world because I was afraid. Afraid, that people knowing I was Christian would set me up for ridicule. Would not come to my blog because of my beliefs. But you know what? I care not. I am not here to indoctrinate you, never that. Indoctrination comes from your own heart. But perhaps reading my words, may help someone. May touch someone in need. Perhaps even bring hope to those that are hopeless. Time will tell.

A bit of a break....is always good to refresh the mind and spirit. Kind words offered in friendship and love is salve to a wounded soul. I need those and will need them in the upcoming days. I want to sincerely thank those of you that took the time out of your busy lives to write to me. Your words sent to me a bit of sunshine on a very cloudy day. Wise people say in times of trouble and unease that your true friends are shown, and that seems to hold true. My true friends were shown and stepped up to the plate to offer their words and friendship to me. For that I shall be eternally grateful - for I read those words as a starving man eats bread. Gobbling them up to fill a hole so wide, so deep, so dark, I hardly knew what would fill it. The hole is still there - maybe not so wide, maybe not so deep, maybe not quite as dark, but it is ever present and I expect it will be for a time to come. But I'm filling it up! I'm filling it up with prayers, with scripture and with the kindness of others. This gaping hole will soon be filled and just a little mar on the distant horizon - never to be forgotten - but not as raw and unyielding as in past days.

Until next time....whenever that may be....I ask you to take a good long look at your own life. I try to do that from time to time, and if you have been a follower of this blog - you know that I do this. I'm my own best critic. I've been ashamed of myself many times in my life, taking the easy road rather than climbing the hard one, listening with ears wide open rather than turning my ears away, speaking ill when I should have kept my mouth shut, being judgemental when I know not what someone is going through or what got them to that point.

If you take anything away from this verbal flood, please take one thing....live your life, live it well, live it good, never give up and never look back with things left undone. Ben didn't leave anything undone, he left no stone unturned and I won't either.

"Do not be overcome with evil, but overcome evil with good."
Romans 12:21

106 comments:

  1. Vonna,
    I am so sorry for your loss. I have been thinking about you ever since you posted about Ben. I pray for you.

    Take care,
    Jill

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  2. Vonna, I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine what you must be going through right now. Just know you are surrounded by thoughts and prayers by many. We love you and hope you take care one day at a time.

    Love,
    Nicole

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  3. Vonna--
    I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time. I read your blog often and it always puts a smile on my face. You are truly a wonderful and optimistic person!

    Live each day fully!
    BrendaS

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  4. Vonna, BRAVO. I appreciate you sharing your thoughts and am extremely sad that you are having to endure such a loss. I know that you will see Ben again and that he not only lives on through the lives of those who were recipients of his kind gift, and through the example of his life, but he literally lives and is able to continue serving others.

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  5. I am so Sorry for your loss. Please know alot of people are thinking of you

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  6. My deepest condolences for your loss Vonna, and for your entire family. I know that Ben is looking down upon you and watching out for you.

    Time heals all wounds...I hope it heals yours. Take care {{hugs}}

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  7. Loss is so hard on everyone isn't it. But such a positive impact Ben obviously had on you, and on the 3 people that received parts of him to survive. Organ donation is such a personal choice .. I'm always glad to hear when someone has chosen it.

    Be good to yourself Vonna .. don't push or rush .. just give yourself time to heal hun. Warm hugs for you and your family.

    Love, Michele

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  8. Vonna, my sympathies to you and your family. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time and may it bring you peace that even in death, Ben gave life. He sounds like a wonderful person.

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  9. I am so sorry for the loss of your dear loved one! He sounds like he was a wonderful young man. I wish I could have met him. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers *hugs*

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  10. Vonna, you are a blessed soul and I'm so grateful to have run into your blog and into your words.

    You take care of yourself and know that so many of us are thinking about you and your family.

    I knew God had big plans for Ben the moment I heard of his passing into his forever life. His miracle was the miracle of life. Can't get much bigger than that, except for "bringing" a life into this crazy and sometimes confusing world. Ben helped maintain it.

    (((Hugs)))
    Julie

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  11. We'll be here when you come back Vonna. All the friends who enjoy your company and talent...we'll be right here. So take your time,do what you have to. The stitching will call, the blog will call when the time is right and although life won't be the same...some things will be....including your friends who are so, so sorry you lost someone as special as Ben was.

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  12. Vonna
    My heart aches for you. And know that with the recent loss of my beloved Mother in early Dec. that I know what you are going through.
    God bless you and yours.

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  13. sorry for your loss, but remeber,he is a hero to the family that he bring life,a miracle,a second chance.yes, he is a hero.

    i am donor, because, this body is only a shell, empty shell when i die, so if somebody need some organ, is better to be used for save a life.

    hugs.

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  14. Vonna, I'm so sorry for your loss. I've been thinking of you ever since you posted about Ben and am glad to see a post from you today. You and your family continue to be in my thoughts. You know we are all here for you as you try to find your bearings at such a difficult time. Take care {{{hugs}}}

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  15. Vonna, I feel so sad and sorry for you and I'll be thinking of you. Feel yourself embraced.

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  16. sending big prayers & hugs your way today Vonna. We have been praying for you since you posted about Ben.
    Thank you for your very clear testimony today. You won't lose this reader!!!! I promise!!
    Take your time. God heals all wounds!
    Hugs to you!

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  17. God Bless you and your family, Dear Vonna.
    My thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time.
    Stay strong!!
    {{{hugs}}}

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  18. Vonna, I am so very sorry for your loss. Ben performed an extraordinary act in the end by giving up his organs to those in need.

    Thank you for being brave in speaking your mind. Though my feelings about religion and faith are different than yours, I respect your beliefs. Yours was one of the first blogs I found when I went looking for stitching blogs, and I have learned so much from you as well as having been entertained by you. We are all so different but share the common bond of needlework. Don't be afraid to be yourself.

    Take care and many hugs,
    Barb

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  19. I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I am praying for your family

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  20. Ben must have been a wonderful young man. I'm sure he will be sadly missed by all who knew and loved him. I believe that God had another plan for Ben. I hope you'll find comfort in the thought that he is in God's loving arms now. Please take care of yourself and take time to grieve.

    Be Blessed And Be A Blessing

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  21. Thank you for sharing your heart with us. My deepest sympathies to you and yours. Sandra xx

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  22. I'm so sorry that you are hurting right now.

    I think you very eloquently expressed your feelings about Ben, about life - and about hope and moving forward. Ben left many gifts, not just his organs, and they will always be with you.

    As for speaking about your faith - okay, it's not something I share, but it is something I respect. It is a part of you so you shouldn't have to feel you have to subsume it.

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  23. I'm so sorry for your loss!! What a wonderful tribute to Ben....and what wonderful words you have written. I follow your blog, I don't always comment.....take time for yourself and your family to heal.......
    Take care
    Marion

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  24. I pray your pain lessens, but never your wonderful memories of Ben.
    From one Christian to another...It's ok to be loud and proud about your faith:) I grew up Baptist and learned if we LIVE our life as Christians, everyone will know without having to be told. I already knew you were;) and never thought you were hiding it.
    Hugs Vonna...from my heart!

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  25. What a wonderful memoriam to your beloved Ben. Thank you for writing this and sharing your love, grief and heart-felt thoughts with us. You are a true Christian and an amazing woman.

    Bless you Vonna.

    hugs, Margaret

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  26. Vonna, What you have written is a wonderful tribute to your beloved nephew and I can't express how sorry I am for your loss. I also admire you greatly for expressing your religious beliefs in your blog. Maybe one day I will but that day is not today. I just hope that you can get through this without too much pain but know from experience that it is the people left behind that suffer the most. All my Love Patti xxx

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  27. Dear Vonna,

    Once again please accept my condolences. Live each day to the fullest, and try not to let the sadness overcome you. I know it's hard, believe me. You're in my prayers.

    Hugs,
    Diane

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  28. WOW, I just want to say that God loves you very much and He is so happy that you care not about sharing your love for Him with everyone around. You have been through a lot lately, that is easy to see. As long as you fall back on our Lord and Saviour, you will be fine though. Even when times are hard and we just do not understand why things are happening to us, God knows!

    Everything will glorify Him, just as Ben's death has already glorified God and will continue to do so! I am truly sorry for your loss! Just remember that Ben is in the arms of Jesus now and nothing will ever change that. Things are perfect for Ben now, he will never feel pain, hurt or sorrow again. He will only feel joy and happiness that we here on earth can not even imagine!

    One day you will be with Ben again and what a joyous occasion that will be!

    I have not visited you blog in a couple years because I lost my stitching and computer bug. So you probably do not even remember me, but I do want you to know that we are sister in Christ and I love you and I will pray for you!!!! If you ever need someone to just vent to or talk to or even pray with, feel free to email me moonbugster@gmail.com

    God Bless You!
    Cindy

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  29. Thank you for sharing your feelings. Hugs and proyers to you and your family at this sad moment.

    Take Care,

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  30. I'm thinking about you and your family.

    (((((((((hugs))))))))))

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  31. Vonna,
    Know that you are loved and I admire you!
    Donna

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  32. Vonna, may God bless you and your family and strengthen all during this time. I understand.

    (((HUGS))

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  33. Vonna,

    This post is truly inspiring to me and I thank you.. Be true to yourself!

    I keep your family in my thoughts and prayers.. I hope your pain eases..

    Hugs,

    Michelle

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  34. Vonna, I'm thinking of you and your family. I'm so sorry for your loss, I know Ben will be missed.

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  35. Thinking of you and yours at this sad time. It was a lovely inspiring post, and a gentle way of spreading the news of how important organ donation is.
    Special memories stay on in our hearts forever.
    LISA V.

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  36. My heart Aches for you and your family.
    Know that God is with Ben and you.
    Your words are inspirational.
    It's lovely to be proud of who you are .
    I too am Catholic I will SING with my choir the next Sunday Mass just for you .
    God bless!!!

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  37. Vonna, I am so sorry for your loss. Please continue to post and let us know how you are doing.

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  38. Vonna, I am so sorry for your loss but am happy for the strength you receive from our Lord. I wasn't sure if a message from a stranger would bring you any comfort but I want you to know that you are thought of daily by me and you and your family are in my prayers. Your friend, Meredith

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  39. My heart goes out to you and your family Vonna. To lose someone at any time in their life is hard but to lose someone so young with a whole lifetime ahead is tragic. Your post is a wonderful memorial to Ben.

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  40. I am sorry you have lost a wonderful young Man. But to learn and live from the lesson Ben had taught you is the biggest and best gift that could of ever come to you. Do not shed a tear for the loss of someone so young. Shed your tears for yourself and others and forgive. For as soon as you forgive you will be able to move on.
    Bless you with all my heart.
    Terri

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  41. Vonna, What an eloquent tribute to Ben. Obviously, he was a very special person in your life. May his memory live on through you and the many others whose lives he touched, and may your faith sustain and comfort you as you mourn his passing.

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  42. Hugs to you Vonna. Don't ever be a afraid to be who you are. Keeping you and your family in my prayers.

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  43. Sometimes I don't understand God, but I trust Him anyway. Can you imagine getting through life without Him! I will continue to pray for you. You get through this the best way you can.

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  44. Dear Vonna,

    I'm so sorry for your great loss and will keep you in my prayers.

    I love visiting your blog...it is always very inspiring.

    Thanks for sharing your faith...I am Christian also.

    XXXX
    Cari

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  45. Oh Vonna I am so terribly sorry for your loss. What a difficult time for you and your family. In my opinion, there is no greater refuge than to turn to God and His church at a time so draining and overwhelming such as this. The Catholic Church is our home in good times and difficult times too.

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  46. Vonna, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. You have written a beautiful tribute to Ben. Thank you for highlighting the importance of organ donors. Ben has been able to bring life and light into these fortunate people's lives.

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  47. Vonna, I am so sorry for your loss. Since your first post about Ben I have often thought of you and how your family were doing. As you said he led a full life and even in death did good by donating his organs. I'm sure those 3 families will be forever grateful for his unselfish act of love.

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  48. Dear Vonna,

    I am so sorry about your loss of your beloved Ben.

    You and your family have been in my thoughts and prayers since I read your post about the accident.

    May God speed your healing process. Know your stitching friends are thinking of you.

    Melody

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  49. Vonna, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I will keep you and yours in my prayers and know that the Lord will help you all through this. God Bless.

    Susan

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  50. We lost our son, Steven, ten years ago and he lives on through five others through the gift of his organs. I hope this gift brings as much comfort to you as it did for us. God Bless you and your family.
    Sandy

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  51. I pray that you will be comforted at this difficult time. Thank you for your beautiful message.

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  52. Vonna,

    I want to extend my heartfelt sympathy to you and your family. It's a hard time for you, I know! But you know what? Ben is in Glory and you, sweet Vonna, will be his voice here on the earth, he lives through your words, through you and through the folks who benefited from his generous donation. From reading your posts about him, Ben lived more in 19 years than many folks who live to a very old age.

    Your testimony to your faith is very inspiring, it will touch those who need a nudgeto take that step and walk with our Lord. Through your words and through the way you live your life, you are a living testimony to the love of our glorious Savior, Jesus!

    We may never meet in this life, Vonna, but I am looking forward to the day when I can meet you in Heaven. God bless you and your family.

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  53. I'm so sorry for your loss, Vonna. Ben was an amazing young man. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. Bless you all.

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  54. Vonna, I am saddened by your loss and will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings with us during this difficult time.

    Take care.

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  55. I'm so sorry for your loss. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

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  56. Oh Vonna. I'm speechless. I truly am. What a hansome young man. He serves a higher purpose now and served a beautiful one here while he was with us. When you feel you can, email me (xstitchquintmom@msn.com). I offer you my prayers and support.

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  57. Vonna,

    I am so sorry for the loss that you've suffered.

    Your post today is a wonderful testament to the man that Ben had become. Your ability to share your pain and your faith will continue his legacy. As he lives on in three individuals, he will also live on through you. God bless you.

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  58. Dear Vonna,

    Your words have come from the heart
    and they reflect the love you have
    for Ben, and for God. Thank you
    for sharing them with us.

    May time heal your pain and give
    you peace and may God hold you and
    your family in His hand and give
    you joy again.

    And may the posts of your friends
    in the blogging world give you some
    measure of comfort.

    We'll be here when you're ready to
    pick up your needle and turn on
    your computer.

    Hugs.

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  59. Vonna I cried for you and your loss just yesterday, and hadn't found the words to write. I must say though that I will be thinking of you and your family, and am so happy to read that right now you are celebrating his life. Loss is hard there is no right way, and to embrace your faith is wonderful. Our differences make us who we are. You find comfort where it's right for YOU and do not concern yourself with other people's feelings.

    Hugs

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  60. Vonna I am very very sorry for your loss. I will be thinking of you and your family during this time. Sending you many hugs and warm wishes.

    Shannon

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  61. You have been in my thoughts and prayers. Your entry to night was a beautiful piece and we should all take time to reflect. Ben sounds like he was a great young man. Prayers and hugs.

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  62. Vonna, I too am very sorry for your loss. Ben is with those he loves who have gone before him and he is at peace. I pray for you to have peace here on earth as well.
    I knew you were a Christian. Your Christianity comes through in your gentle demeanor and beautiful words. It comes in the way you speak of your kids and your life. You shine with your Christianity and it would never make me stop reading your blog. I get a sense of peace when I come here. And I thank you for that!

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  63. what a wonderful testimony of a wonderful young man taken too soon from the world! But the LORD must have wanted him there more...we never know God's thoughts but know that everything happen for good to those that love God. You are in my prayers.....hoping and praying his testimony (and yours) will bring someone to the knowledge of our Savior Jesus Christ!!!! God bless you and yours

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  64. It is a sad season for sure. But just as surely as roses bloom again and spring returns, so joy will return to your lives.

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  65. Praying for you all, Vonna. I appreciate your stand, even though I never thought you were hiding it before. And you're right; we have a loving God and Savior whom we can have complete faith in. While it doesn't make it easier here, one day you'll see Ben again, because of that blessed hope. Give yourself time to grieve and remember; we're all be here whenever you feel like coming back.

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  66. I'm so sorry about your lost. It is always through difficult times that we cherish what we have even more. I will be thinking about you and your family.

    Be strong.

    ((Hugs))

    Theresa

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  67. Vonna, What a moving memorial you have written to Ben at a time when you are so full of grief. He would be proud of you too.
    Please remember there are lots of your blogging friends who are thinking of you and praying for you at this terrible time.
    ((hugs))

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  68. Thanks for your words. For one that has in the family someone that needed a kidney and never had a chance, I understand perfectly how important Ben life is, because he carries on in someone else that might not even know how important he is for him/her, but that seems to be what he wanted: Help others, always, no matter what. To lose someone that close is terrible, and it takes time. I'm sure your faith will help and never forget we are all here to help, close or far, but "here".
    Best regards

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  69. Niek and I are both organ donors - thank you for putting the word out there that this is a way we can ALL give back to a world that gives so much to us.

    I've been thinking of you, Vonna. I'm so sorry that you've had such a loss, but the way you are working through it brings so much to so many people. You're really a most remarkable person.

    Sending, always, love.

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  70. Food for thought Vonna, and beautifully written. I lost my brother 38 years ago when he was 2 and I was 4. Scarcely a day goes by when I don't still think of him, so he lives on in the people whose lives he touched. As will Ben. Take care. {{hugs}}

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  71. Anonymous6:26 AM

    Vonna; Mere words cannot express the sympathy I have for you and your family. Please accept my sincerest condolences.

    My younger brother was taken from us very suddenly, and even though it's been nearly six years, there are days that it seems like yesterday. God helped me through that rough time, just as He is helping you right now.

    Take time to mourn, to heal, and to look to the Father for comfort. He will not leave you.

    In Christ's Love,
    Cindy in Northern Indiana

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  72. I'm very sorry, I think what he has done to donate organs, is the most beautiful thing a person can do, I think I will do the same, because we must help each other.
    Kisses
    silvia
    italy

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  73. Dear, sweet Vonna:

    I'm so sorry for your family's loss. Words are never adequate, but you know that I'm here for you in the coming days, weeks and months as you travel this sad road. {{{hugs}}}

    You should not be concerned with expressing and sharing your faith - it's always been clear to me that your faith in God shines through in your posts. If anyone stops reading your blog because you're not afraid to talk about it, then that is their problem, not yours.

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  74. I am so sorry for your loss Vonna. God bless you and your family and please know that I am thinking of you all. Our lost loved ones live on in all of us.

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  75. My thoughts will continue to be with you and your family and also the friends that Ben had. What a gift you had Vonna, to have this wonderful guy in your life. What treasured memories he has created for you to keep always. Your beliefs are what make you unique, and I think you are a woman to be very admired.

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  76. Vonna

    I am so so sorry for your loss, your post was heartbreaking but made me realise a few errors in my life too iykwim. You and your family will be in my prayers tonight.

    Laura x

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  77. I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Take comfort in your wonderful memories of Ben.

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  78. Vonna...you'll be in my prayers. I'm so sorry for your loss.
    I truly hope that you also remember that God gave you gifts...one of which is definately the needlework talent you share with all of us who have learned so much from you. We are all so lucky to know you through these gifts...you've brought us so much...never give up on them!!! So wonderful that you will be sharing your Christianity with all of us also! Love you!!!

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  79. Well written and well said. The loss of a loved one never goes away, but does become less raw. I am always there for you my friend anytime you need me, you know how to get ahold of me..Hugs..

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  80. Vonna,
    I have always thought that your spirituality shines through your blog postings. You are a truly good person living a good life.

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  81. xx - You know I'm here if you need me xxx

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  82. Vonna, I'm so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time. . You have written a beautiful tribute to Ben.

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  83. Vonna, my deepest sympathies to you and your family -- immediate and extended. Ben did a great thing by being an organ donor...I'm signed up to be one, too. Sending healing thoughts your way.

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  84. Ben's gift of life speaks volumes about how he lived his own. How blessed you've been to have had someone like Ben in your lives.
    Sharing your strong faith has made me see how wrong I've been in hiding my own. Thank you for opening your heart and sharing with us.
    My sincere condolences to you and all of your family.
    Take the time you need to heal and I'll always keep you in my prayers.

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  85. I'm so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

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  86. I'm so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

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  87. I am so sorry to hear about your loss, Vonna. It certainly sounds like Ben was an extraordinary young man, and I'm sure that you had a great influence in that.

    They say that there are four stages of grieving...shock, denial, anger, acceptance. There are times that you think that you have moved to the next stage and something takes you back. Keep all of the good memories in your heart...and keep the faith.

    You and your family will be in my thoughts. {{{{{HUGS}}}}}

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  88. Vonna, I've been so busy that I haven't checked in and I'm only now just catching up. I'm so sorry to hear about Ben. I hope you feel the warmth of all of our love and hugs supporting you.

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  89. I just wanted to say that my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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  90. How unimaginably sad. I'm very sorry for your family's loss.

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  91. Anonymous1:45 AM

    Hey Sis, pretty deep blog here tonight. For one time in our life I actually agree with what you said! hahahahahha It was certainly good seeing you last week and I hope you and the kids (especially Jakie) can remember Ben and appreciate all the time we spent with him.

    Disneyland this year???? I am buying!!!!

    So long from the wonderfully(bankrupt)state of California!

    Jeremy and Ryan

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  92. I'm so sorry for your loss Vonna, I will keep you in my thought and prayers too!

    Hugs from Belgium,
    Wendy

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  93. So sorry for your loss Vonna, Ben sounds like a special young man and I hope that your memories of him and your faith will sustain you in this difficult time.

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  94. Oh Vonna! Your family's pain is so evident and I'm so sad for you. Not that you asked, but I am an organ donor and try to convince everyone I know to become one. Also, wear your faith proud--some of us are non-believers, some are muslim, some are Jewish--we come together in our love of the needle, and from there, respect and admiration and tolerance grows! We've all been ashamed and embarassed in our lives, and we are all works in progress. Accept a gentle ((HUG)) from me to you. Nothing can take away your pain, but know others from all around are feeling empathy for you and your family during this hard time. Thx for your post.

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  95. {{{{Vonna}}}} I'm so sorry for your loss, I shall be keeping your family in my thoughts and prayers

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  96. Vonna, thanks so much for your words. They are great !
    My prays are with you and your family and for Ben.
    Good thinks for the next times

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  97. Vonna,my heart goes out to you and your family. I cannot imagine a pain greater than the unexpected loss of a child. My husband passed away unexpectedly on January 26, so just today I was back to a "normal" Saturday and catching up on blogs. I didn't expect to read about your family's loss of such a wonderful young man. As for you being afraid of sharing with us more of who you "really" are and your faith, please don't be afraid or ashamed. Those of us who follow your blog already know and love you for who you are. And regardless of one's faith, the lifelong friend who shared with us at my husband's funeral reminded us all that "God is love, and those who abide in love abide in God and God abides in them." What more do we need to know? I'm right down the road from you in Louisville, and you can contact me at time2stitch@gmail.com if you need a friend. Love & hugs, Teri

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  98. Dear Vonna,I hope you and your families pain will ease a little soon. {{{{hugs}}}}

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  99. I am so very sorry for your loss, Vonna. From one Christian to another, I can say that faith has gotten me through when nothing else would at times. I feel your pain, and hope that time will heal your heart. I will be praying for you and your family and for peace.

    Love and hugs,
    Carolyn

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  100. Vonna,
    Ben was a amazing man who lives on in spirit as well as his gift of life towards others. My thoughts and prayers are with you all. Stay strong and say what you want on your blog, it's your blog and we must all respect that we all have our beliefs!
    Love
    Petra

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  101. Any time we lose a loved one it leaves a huge hole that takes a long time to even begin to lessen. I'm so sorry for your loss, and with your entry you've given me and others quite a bit to think about and consider in how we live our lives and conduct ourselves. {{hugs}}
    Sue

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  102. Vonna, I know that there is not much I can say that has not already been said. Loss is never easy, and when someone so wonderful and giving is lost it is sometimes a hard thing. I am very inspired by Ben's story and your kind words posted today. I think your devotion and belief in God is wonderful and a blessed thing. Your words really struck a cord in me - someone who is still searching for spiritual resolution in life - and I thank you for today's post. Take care and thank you again.

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  103. Dearest Vonna, I have emailed you. xx

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  104. All the best, dear Vonna! Our deepest condoleances for your big loss in the family. Take your time ... again: all the best!

    Greetings, Carolien

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  105. Vonna, I really don't know what to say... I'm so sorry for your loss.
    I'll pray in memory of Ben.

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  106. Such lovely and comforting comments. I am so glad you shared all these feelings with us. I can see it helped you as you found something pretty to stitch.
    God bless you and your family.

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