Thursday, February 16, 2012

My Tutorials...

Have you seen Tanya's  newest releases? I was lucky enough to see a sneak peek a few weeks ago because I finished the box top pincushion for her. I also made a tutorial on how I finished it. The tutorial can be viewed: HERE  This is really a darling project and I urge you to give Tanya's sweet design a go! She also just released a gorgeous sampler that will be coming to live with me in short order. Take a gander at Miss Mary Roe  she's a beauty!
TSH_Orts and Ends 1 TSH_Orts and Ends 3

Now for a word on my tutorials...
I've been fielding lots of questions about my tutorials so I wanted to clear up any misconceptions. I first published to my original tutorial blog over 5 years ago. Since that time, I have updated, revised and come up with better ways to finish items. So I decided last year, that as time allowed, I would update my tutorials and put them onto a brand new organized by theme tutorial blog. I have done so slowly over the course of a year. Today I introduce my new and improved tutorials located at Learn to Finish with The Twisted Stitcher . You are all invited to use my tutorials freely, I share them with anyone who wants to know how I "do" something and wishes to learn. I, by all means am not the end-all, know-all of anything, and there are many other ways of finishing, these collected in my tutorial blog are my way of finishing and I share them with anyone that wants to view them. There are two things I ask: do not use them as your own work and if you use my tutorials to finish an object, you give me credit. That's it.

Recently...
and a handful of other days I have been the object of scorn here on my blog. People concealing themselves "Anonymously" have left me negative comments. How big they are to leave them without attaching their name and profile to their comment! Let me explain what this was over. A person left me a comment wishing me to point her in the direction of a certain tutorial of my authorship. Her name was not associated with a google account, nor was it associated with an e-mail. I specifically ask in my "comment form message" that if you have a specific question that you would like answered to "leave your e-mail" so that I can address it with them personally. Why? Simple, because I do not want this blog to become a bulletin board of questions and answers. This is my personal stitching blog, where I showcase my stitching, not a Dear Heloise column. Don't want to leave your e-mail? No problem! Contact me via e-mail - my e-mail address is at the top of every blog I am currently authoring. E-mail me, I get lots of e-mails, I'm happy to help any person that needs it, if it is done in a respectful way. Recently,  "Ms. Anonymous" left me a comment that I was rude by directing the lady to leave a comment with her e-mail connected or contact me by e-mail as I would not discuss it here. The tutorial she was referring to (as there is more to the story Ms. Anonymous!), I deleted. I was going to explain to the lady wanting to know where the tutorial was, that it was deleted and I was actually going to write a tutorial in an e-mail and send it to her explaining the steps clearly. As I said before, I didn't want to discuss it here, as I didn't want it clogging up my comments with a very lengthy e-mail. So Ms. Anonymous, I hope this explanation suits your sensitive sensibilities. And to the lady that left the comment wanting to know where the certain tutorial was...e-mail me, I'll be happy to help you.

And...
in fact another blogger also wrote very eloquently on this very topic of e-mail/google account association and you may view it: HERE   - you know just so Ms. Anonymous knows I'm not the only person out there that gets frustrated by not being able to get into contact with people that leave questions, when the solution to the problem is so simple.

This blog...
and my blogging has altered my life in a very positive way. I enjoy helping others, sharing with others and simply be-ing with people of like minds. What irritates me with some of the people that have access to my blog and to my psyche is that by a few short strokes of a keyboard they can cut my heart like a knife. This incident is probably worrying me more than it would at any other time of the year because to be frank I'm dealing with some personal issues that is upsetting, and they keep coming - you know the old adage - "when it rains it pours". On top of personal issues, my brother was killed three years ago February 12. His life should be and is celebrated, but no matter how positive you are, subconsciously the anniversary is there in the back of your mind and you cannot help but to flash back to that time of horrible, all-consuming grief. So was I short with the lady that wanted to know where my tutorial was - maybe I could have worded it better, yes. But also maybe, just maybe,  Ms. Anonymous needs to attend to her own matters, you know those who cast the first stone... but the fact remains the same, I am not Dear Heloise if you have a question, by all means ask it with an e-mail I can contact you with or e-mail me personally.

Thank you for your visits...

116 comments:

  1. Vonna
    You are a gifted needlewoman and a generous soul. You've taken the time to answer my questions with insight and guidance. Just say a prayer for those insensitive readers.
    I'll send up a few extra prayers for Ben and your family.
    Busy Hands...Happy Heart
    Patricia

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  2. Very nice finish Vonna. Tonya's designs are on my "must have" from Nashville list:))

    I'll be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers during this stressful time in your life. I for one am so very thankful for your tutorials and the time that it takes you to provide such wonderful clear instructions for the rest of us.

    Counting down the days until the June retreat:))!!!!!

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  3. Vonna I am so sorry you have to deal with such negativity!! I love your blog and all the help you have given me. I love to come and see all the wonderful things you are doing. I am so sorry about your brother.. You are in my prayers...

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  4. I'm so sorry that you've been having to deal with people and their negativity. I know it's easier said than done but try not to let it bother you too much.
    As for your stitching and finishing, it's beautiful as always. I also saw 'Miss Mary Roe' this morning and thought it was lovely. I'm trying so hard not to buy any stash at the moment, but all the new releases for the market are making it really hard to remain strong.

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  5. Well, I can see that there are some comments out there that have been disruptive to our happy blogging family - I have visited another blog or two who have had similar complaints as of late-
    What is that phrase - shake the dust off your feet -

    Hugs to you Vonna -
    I so enjoy your tutorials &
    Your very positive & uplifting blog
    And I don't expect that you can be everything to everybody - So......

    Enjoy your day & know that there are those of us out there that appreciate you ;)
    That appreciate your kindness in offering your tutorials for free & that just plain enjoy visiting your lovely blog -

    I understand that comment - when it rains it pours because it is raining here - But if we make it through the rain
    WE GET TO SEE THE RAINBOW ;)
    And what a lovely site it will be !!!!!!!!
    Hugs

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  6. I love your awesome blog. It makes me want to become a better blogger and stitcher and is one of my favorites. Don't let people get you down - there is always a naysayer in the bunch. Keep on stitching and blogging. I look forward to seeing your tutorial blog.
    Cathy

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  7. I applaud your determination to keep your personal stitching blog in your own personal style and touching on topics of your choosing ... which by the way, I thoroughly enjoy. Setting up a separate blog for tutorials is above and beyond generous. Anyone can visit and learn with the click of a mouse. God bless modern technology! If folks can't respond to such generosity with a simple "Thank You", then shame on them!

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  8. God bless you Vonna! You have been a great help. Your blog is great! :) I am praying for you.♥

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  9. I'm so sorry that you have to deal with this...you do not deserve this. People don't realize (and need to) just how cutting their words or keystrokes can be.
    You have always been positive and helpful and have always responded to my request for prayers during my difficult times.
    I will say extra prayers for you and send you many virtual hugs...

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  10. Love your newest finish. All your work is just beautiful. I love that you share your little secrets in making such wonderful finishes.
    Sorry everyone can't be more understanding.
    Your bible verse Matthew 7:3 is just perfect.
    Prayers go with you.
    Teresa's Heartfelt Stitches

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  11. Well, I be befuddled, imagine not having anything more productive to do. You go Girl and I just love what you have finished and how you set out your tutorials, not to mention yourself and your family.
    Cheers to you and yours &
    Be always in stitches.

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  12. You are a very sweet lady and I love you and your blog so much,,
    Sending you big hugs xxx

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  13. Hi Vonna! I visit your blog very regularly and I've learned too much from your tutorials. I'm very sorry you have problems with such an outragious behaviour. I send you my possitive energy and please remeber that even you are so far away (geographicaly) I feel you very close to my heart.....
    Nouli from Greece....

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  14. Thank you for sharing your talents with us. I'm so sorry to hear that you're dealing with some personal issues that are causing you pain. Keeping you in my thoughts.

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  15. I say it's your blog and you have every right to handle questions how you wish. I think you are very generous to even have the tutorial blog. I personally want to thank you for it. I've learned a bunch from you as a result eventhough we've never met. You are appreciated by many and especially by me!

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  16. As always, you did a beautiful job on the finishing of the Orts and Ends box Vonna!

    As for the troll, I'm sorry you have had to deal with it. It is very generous of you to share how you do something with the rest of the world. Don't beat yourself up over one or two negative people. The vast majority of us out here in blogland appreciate all that you do. So take those negative comments, wad them up in a little ball and drop kick them out the door.

    Hope the issues you are dealing with resolve themselves soon and in the meantime Vonna, I will add you to my prayer list.

    ((Hugs))

    Julie

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  17. I really love your finish and as for Miss Mary Roe, I really love it, I don't think its putting anyone out by asking that you be emailed by questions and it is afterall your blog and you are entitled to have it the way you want it.
    I always feel the adage of If you can't say something nice say nothing should apply to most.

    Thoughts to you at this time.

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  18. Vonna, you are just about the sweetest, most generous person in the blogosphere, and I for one have benefited greatly from that generosity. As for these negative people (and I have had my fair share of them in the stitching world), my husband would always tell me "illegitimi non carborundum." He let me figure out the translation, but basically it means "don't let people discourage you." ;~)
    As for the loss of your brother, our family remembers a similar loss this time of year. Big hugs to you, my friend.

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  19. I have been reading for a short while compared to your whole blogging experience but I can't even begin to IMAGINE why some people feel 'entitled'.

    I see a kind heart through your blog and I hope you find strength in knowing how appreciated you are by the majority and ignore the minority who need to look inwardly at themselves.

    Onto other matters...THANK YOU for the link to your finishing blog. It's going to be so helpful.

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  20. Vonna,

    You are such an inspiration! Do not allow Ding-Dongs to bring you down! Keep your head up sister! You rock!!

    Hugs and prayers to you and your family during this trying time!

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  21. Love the finish for the orts & ends piece!
    I love your tutorials as well! In fact you have taught me much of my finishing techniques :) I was afraid to do finishing at one point in fear of ruining my stitched piece but your tutorials made me take the plunge so to speak lol So for that I Thank You! I can't figure out why someone wouldn't leave their email or email you when they have a question. But I've seen it all too much!
    Hugs to you!

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  22. Vonna,

    You are such an inspiration! I LOVE your blog! If mindless people get to you, know that the Greater Power is there to guide you through the hard times. Life is too short to have others run your happiness!

    Do not allow Ding-Dongs to get under your skin!! If your instructions bother them that much, then they do not need to be mooching off of your finishing! "Ms. A" where is your talent, get a life!

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  23. Thank you for a place to get all of your teaching in one click. I have learned so much from your wonderful directions. I can't wait to stitch this ort box!

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  24. You are a blessing. Your tutorials and how you explain them have helped me and I appreciate you so much. Taking the time out of your full life to help us is appreciated so much. Thank you very much. HUGS

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  25. Awww Vonna. Big hugs. That person obviously doesn't know you very well and your kind kind heart. Let it be water off a duck's back hey. xx

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  26. Apparently, the person(s) who are leaving negative comments or requests don't know you very well. I've been reading your blog for years, and you have to be one of the most generous, upbeat, positive people I know (in the blogosphere). I think people forget that bloggers are people too, with real feelings. I'm sorry you are having a difficult time, I hope that knowing you are appreciated by the majority of your readers gives you great joy during a time of personal struggle.

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  27. That is a fantastic finish and a beautiful design by Tanya. I am always amazed at the temerity of people on the internet-it's only because they can hide. You have nothing to apologize for-we all go through difficult times, unfortunately it's other people that makes things even more difficult. Thanks for sharing your tutorials!

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  28. Vonna, I think there are too many people out there that believe they are entitled to having EVERYTHING their way. I'm so glad you are in the blogosphere. I've benefitted from your positive outlook, and drooled over your wonderful work. This is your blog. If people don't like how you do things, they can lump it. I for one, like it, and I'll be reading just a long as you keep posting! My thoughts and prayers are with you through this rough patch.

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  29. My goodness Vonna! Your tutorial blog took quite a lot of work. Thank you so much for the instructions! Everything is laid out so well and we all appreciate your hard work and expertise. I was always told that if someone is mean to me, I should react with the old rule - "you catch more flies with honey" - but some times I'd rather use a flyswatter. My thoughts are with you. My grief at Dad's anniversary is consuming because of the anger at his unnecessary suffering. I wish you peace.

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  30. Lovely finish for Tanya and thanks so much for all your tutorials! Your response was eloquently worded.
    I've had a lot of "rain" in my life of late and can relate to that, for sure. I know this time of year must be really tough and sad for you; that, I can't really imagine. But I do lift you up in prayer.

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    1. And I'm still waiting for You to get back on again ( - : Ms. Chocolate ( - : Jannie

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  31. I'm so confused as to why someone would be so rude! You have a wonderful blog, beautiful work, and the tutorials are awesome. I have several printed out and have learned a LOT from them. I am just starting on projects that will need finishing and your blog is a wealth of information.

    I think you are right to feel bad about this woman leaving anonymous comments that were undeserved. I had some women I used to work with putting anonymous nastiness on my own blog which I stopped by doing a post about bullying. And then put my comments on moderate only. Luckily, I've been able to change it back because they lost interest.

    Don't let one person get you down. What you do here is beautiful, wonderful, and uniquely you and you have nothing to apologize for.

    Hugs,
    Chelle

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  32. Vonna: I am saddened at the thought that there is a person or persons that are so rude as to leave rude comments, I want to tell you that you are one of the people I admire in this world, you seem so sweet and genuine.
    I hope all is well for you soon.
    I love following you.
    Blessings
    Catherine

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  33. That is a beautiful finish Vonna.
    I learned how to finish my first ever Pin Keep in 2008 following your tutorial,long before I started my own blog.Your blog and Amy S.C's blogs were the first ones I found back in 2007. It felt like a whole new stitching world had opened up.
    I am sorry you have been left feeling hurt by recent posts,it is definitely the downside of the internet :(
    Thank you for sharing your finishes with us and my thoughts are with you.

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  34. Vonna,
    Thanks for another great tutorial. I have always admire your hard work. You are an inspiration. There will always be those you can never make happy. I appreciate the hard work you put into your blog. Keep up the great work!

    Hugs,
    Carolyn

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  35. I appreciate your blog and the tutorials very much! What a shame people can be so nasty. Know that the vast majority of us are thankful for your help. You will be in my prayers.

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  36. Your Orts box finish is just perfect. Thanks again for another fabulous tute.

    Methinks the stresses of life are getting to you in a not so good way. Time for hugs, comfort food, and just doing what makes you happy. I'll supply some big virtual hugs to get you started!

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  37. I really, really hate the anonymity of the Internet - it allows people to say things that they wouldn't dream of saying if they were stood in front of you!!!

    I have followed several of your tutorials, and am very grateful for them. I think asking people to email you is a very reasonable request and whoever takes umbridge at that doesn't deserve your expertise.

    Sending you lots of love from across the big pond xx

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  38. Vonna, I'm sorry you're having a stressful time right now. And the anniversary of your brother's death too. You poor thing. I never understand why people feel the need to express a negative opinion. Totally not necessary. Hugs. Don't stress about it -- it's not worth it. Love Tanya's ORT box. You did a fabulous job finishing it for her!

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  39. Vonna, I hate to hear about the negative people posting on YOUR blog. This is like walking into your home and being rude to you. It's your space. If they don't like it, they don't have to visit! Don't let their nasty attitudes live rent free in your head. :-)

    I also lost my brother, so I know what you mean. David was lost at sea Oct. 27, 2009. There are days it still seems like a fresh wound. I've always told my daughters, "You never know the heartbreak someone else may be dealing with, so don't go around poking people with sticks."
    ~ Lorraine

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  40. Lovely stitching and finishing...as always! :)

    My grandmothers reply to anything like the situation/person you are describing was 'nowt stranger than folk' and now I realize just how tue the saying is. Please know that the rest of us stitchers appreciate all the work you do and also the time that it takes to do .

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  41. What a sweet pattern and a beautiful finish, as always. I'm looking forward to trying out some of your tutorials later this year, thank you so much for sharing them with us.

    God care for your family in a difficult and stressful time. Well done you for having the strength and courage to stand up to the naysayers!

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  42. Thoughtfully and well said, Vonna. Bravo!

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  43. Vonna - Tanya's new piece is darling, and your new way of finishing it is perfect! I have used your tutorials several many times and they have always worked amazingly well (considering the person trying to do the finishing)!

    It saddens me to see that even in what should be an apolitcal, generally affirming set of blogs, there are still people who can't behave. I am sorry that happened to you, but know that you are loved and appreciated for your talent, your sharing and your overall being!!

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  44. Right on Vonna - it's so true how a careless remark can cause more hurt than people anticipate. Hope your personal issues resolve soon - we all have troubles that people don't realize and always important to be respectful of that.

    hugs
    Jeanne

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  45. Another gorgeous finish Vonna. I'll be keeping you in my thoughts during this stressful time in your life. I for one am so very thankful for your tutorials and the time that it takes you to provide such wonderful clear instructions for the rest of us.

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  46. Dear Vonna, Please do not let this woman get you down! Your FRIENDS know that you are the kindest giving person there is! I have been stitching for many years, but I am new to finishing and have found your tutorials are life saver! Does Ms Anonymous realise the time and work that goes into producing these tutorials..... you don't need them, they are for for us! If Ms Anonymous has a problem with your blog she has a choice.... she does not have to visit! I love your blog and have been visiting for about 4 years and have shared your up's and down's, after all that's what friends do, and feel priviledged that you have shared your wonderful stitching and family with us!
    I,m just so shocked at how mean people can be!

    Love,

    Suzanne

    P.S. Sorry this post was so long!

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  47. Sorry for the loss of your brother. Sorry their are so many stone throwing folks out there. Try not to let them distract you from helping all the needy finisher out. Hugs

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  48. Dear Vonna,
    May I add my voice to the support chorus???? I am so sorry that this happened now and in the past (and who are we kidding, in the future too). It is very sad when people (especially stitchers) are not kind.

    For heaven's sakes your tutorials are so wonderful and so easy to find. And clearly, when you have an involved question you email the person. The comments are for comments about what you posted that day; not in inquisition area.

    May I also say that I understand your feelings around the date of the death of your brother. All of those feelings of sadness and despondency just seem to pop up again. You have my sincere sympathies.

    Sending a big hug your way!!!!

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  49. Don't you just love people who go out of their way to ruin everyone's fun? It sounds like you need a cocktail this evening. Have one for me too :)

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  51. Vonna, you're an angel. We are all grateful for your generosity in sharing your projects and your knowledge. All your regular readers are better stitchers -- and better human beings! -- for encountering your words. Hugs to you and your family and prayers for your difficult times. Thank you for all you do.

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  52. Great finishing on Tanya's Ort box. So sorry that you have been hurt by some insensitive people. I really appreciate your tutorials and have used them to help me make a flat fold in the past.

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  53. OH my !! Just from reading your blog, hearing about your wonderful family and all you do for others , I am so sad that someone could say negative things on your beautiful blog. Thinking of you and your family and looking forward to seeing more wonderful things on this beautiful , inspiring , blog. in my prayers, xoJennifer C.

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  54. well said Vonna....I approve all comments made to my blog to weed out invitations and advertisements....might be a good move for you to stop the nastiness of others.
    Keep up your wonderful blogging and finishing.

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  55. Hi Vonna,
    Don't let the trolls ruin your day:) You are such a gifted and creative finisher! I love coming to your blog to see what you've done. I will pray for your family during your difficult times. Keep up the good work!

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  56. Beautiful finish on Tanya's ORT box. And congrats on your new tutorials blog! How exciting and how generous of you to offer all of your experience on finishing to all of us. I'm so very sorry that you are going through a rough patch and it being a difficult time of year too. Big hugs. Please don't let a handful of negative voices settle in your heart.

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  57. Oh Vonna, I feel so bad for you...you have been nothing but nice in my book! We all love you so keep on doing whatever makes your heart sing and we'll sing with you!

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  58. I don't understan why people are so mean...you are such a sweetie by even giving us help and advice and I personally want to thank you right now! I love reading your blog and even though I do not always have time for the cross stitch I still love it and love reading about it and all you post about. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

    By the way...wonderful pin cushion!! Have a great day ;0)

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  59. Vonna - so sorry you had such a bad experience. I love your blog and all the wonderful tidbits you share with us. Sending warm thoughts and hugs to you and your family.

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  60. Shout if from the roof tops sista~~ We all feel the same...Let's keep our stitching blogs just that and email specific people with specific responses. I applaude you!

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  61. The comment above mine (Orlythe) says it all. You are one of the kindest, most generous souls in our stitching and blogging world, and it hurts my heart to hear that someone has been so mean to you. I personally have been the recipient of your goodness, from answering my questions to sending me a skein of Joshua Tree I needed when you didn't even know me. And I rely on your tutorials and feel so blessed that they are available. I hope all the collective words of love and support here will help negate that awful feeling imposed on you by someone who doesn't deserve a second thought.

    I am so very sorry about your brother - my deepest sympathies to you and your family.

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  62. I'm the Barb that recently sent you an email - I love your blog!!! Love, love, love it!!!

    I am in complete and total AWE of your amazing talent and especially your incredible generosity - you are a very special lady!

    Thank you so much.

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  63. It is very frustrating to hear that you are going through this, the time you have put in to helping us all out and teaching us with your wonderful tutorials. We are blessed to have your generosity and talents put before us. Do not fret over her, it is a waste of your time.

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  64. beautiful stitching :D *hugs* some people are just nasty! Thank you for a wonderful tutorial blog!

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  65. Hello Vonna,

    I have just got back into cross stitch this year,nearly finished my first piece on linen, a sampler. Thanks to blogs like yours which have kept me motivated. People have got to learn that there is a real person with feelings behind each and every blog. You have handled the situation so well. Thanks for the links to the way you finish your projects.

    Happy days to you and your family.
    Bev.xoxo

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  66. Hi Vonna! Love the Orts and Ends piece and how you finished it! I have used your cube tutorial each and every time I make a cube finish! I bring my netbook over to my sewing maching and ironing board and voila! Shortly (oh, okay it was not always shortly!) I had a great looking finish! You took a long time to do the tutorials and I sure do appreciate them and thank you! Hugs!

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  67. Ya know you're the 3rd blogger I've read that had this negative comment issue. What is wrong with people? Simply don't read the blogs you don't want to read People! Shish! I love your blog & I've already emailed you about your life saving tutorials. So please keep up the great work. Love your finish!

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  68. Vonna, I want to say here that I've followed your blog for some time but never commented due to a rusty blogroll. Now I've just discovered google reader (it's amazing!) I'm happy to say your posts have been popping up! I've always loved your finishes and have seen other stitcher's use your services before (and they are amazing!!) I have yet to use one of your tutorials but am looking forward to using them soon for a couple of finishes I have in mind! I will link you to my finish! So sorry to hear about the negative comments. Also sending my prayers to you during a stressful time for you and your family. Take care and hugs for you!

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  69. Eeeek! Now I need to update the links on my blog! Thanks for letting us know, Vonna.

    I get mean-spirited comments on occasion. I simply tap delete and never think of them again. Some people get overloaded with foul junk and need to dump the trash ~ you just happened to be in the way.

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  70. Lovely finish Vonna! Thank you for sharing your finishes & tutorials, it's very generous of you and appreciated by many! It's unfortunate that there are people who are comfortable with hiding behind the tag "anonymous" when I'm sure most of them would never speak to someone like that in person. Well said.

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  71. You know Vonna you have always answered any questions I have had about your blog or tutorials with kindness. Look at all the positive comments compared to the negative. You have many friends in the blogosphere so don't let that bad apple get you down.

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  72. First off, I'm so sorry for the lost of your brother. Some things, like this, time never heals. I hope that thinking about him brings joy to your heart ad a smile to your face.

    That really blows about the anonymous poster. As much as the Internet has given us, unfortunately it also empowers certain people to be rude and insensitive. I'm sorry that you were at the receiving end of this. :(

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  73. Another great stitch and finish Vonna. Thank you for sharing your tutorials.

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  74. I LOVE Tanya's latest design ( I hadn't seen it before and now I need it!) and you finished it so beautifully. Thank you for the tutorial for it too.

    I am so sorry that you've had some nastiness on your blog lately. It seems there are people out there who still don't get the "if you can't say anything nice then don't say anything" thing. Fortunately there are more nice people in the blogging world than there are nasty ones. I'm glad you put Ms Anonymous straight.

    Thinking of you and hoping that things get better for you soon {{{{hugs}}}}

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  75. Vonna, thanks for sharing your life and your tutorials with us. I need and appreciate all the help I can get (and not just with my stitching!). Have a fabulous weekend!

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  76. Oh, Vonna...as a very sensitive soul myself,I know the comment from Ms. Anonymous would have bothered me as well. I am still shocked at how many people ask me questions in their comments with no way to contact them with an answer. I'm also hurt by the people whom I email long responses or explanations to, who never even have the courtesy to say a simple "thank you."

    That being said, I know how much we all love and appreciate your wonderfully helpful tutorials. I just used one yesterday in fact!! I can't even imagine how much time those must take to put together... Your newest finish and tutorial for so helpful. I hope to get up my nerve to try it for myself very soon. So, thank you, thank you for sharing your skills and secrets with us!

    I can't even imagine how much your whole family is missing Ben...I remember it was when I first began my blog and reading others three years ago that I read your post on him. He sounds like such an amazing young man who touched so many... Sending you a warm hug as you deal with this and everything you are dealing with right now...

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  77. Sweet little finish!!!! I love the ORTs box Tanya designed!!!

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  78. So sorry you and others have to go through negative comments on these wonderful blogs. Suffice it to say, I for one, am totally grateful for all the help you.supply in your tutorials and the finishing you show on your blog....bsturtz@blogspot.com

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  79. I love the ort box finish. It is so cute... both Tanya's design and your stitching/finishing.

    I GREATLY appreciate your time and generosity in sharing such fabulous finishing tutorials. I have used your tutorials in the past and have directed fellow stitchers to your site for instruction as well. I have contacted you with questions before and have always received a nice, helpful response. It amazes me how people can be negative over something like this, but it would have hurt my feelings too. I'm sorry it is such a hard time for you and your family right now. Seek strength in your faith.
    I hope you have a good weekend.

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  80. Oh Vonna, I'm really sorry to hear how you've been hurt by the insensitivity of this individual. It also frustrates me that people ask questions or comment with no way for us to contact them.
    You have always been so generous with your time and help in regards to your tutorials. It's because of you that I attempted finishing and your tutorials have been my bible for finishing. Sharing your skills has encouraged me to try things that I might not otherwise have attempted. All these positive comments far outweigh that one negative and I hope that you can see fit to put this out of your mind.

    I do understand the grief that you're still feeling for Ben. I've been there and for the most part I think I've moved on and those feelings always surprise me when they resurface. It shows me just how much one individual has the capacity to love and be loved.

    On a lighter note, your finish for Tanya is wonderful! I don't know where you come up with your ideas but you never cease to amaze me!

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  81. Hi Vonna,

    Very well put! I have been dealing with frustrating people a group I belong to, and sometimes you just wonder why you do it? I really appreciate your wonderful blog, and tutorials, and I want you to know that you have helped me many times. THANK YOU so much for doing what you do!
    I love the new designs by Tanya, and especially the ort box. It's so cleaver!
    So sorry to hear about your brother. I hope that you can feel some peace at this time of year.
    Hugs to you!

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  82. Shame on Ms Anonymous for sticking her nose into something that didn't concern her in the least...and what is up with all these "anonymous" posters lately...good lord people, get a blog already...they're free!!! Anywho Vonna, you just ignore people like that...the rest of us (those not ashamed to put our name out there) LOVE you & your sweet blog/tutorials and appreciate ALL that you do to help the stitching and blogging community!!

    So sorry for your loss as well...although the pain of losing someone you love never goes away, time does help dull it a bit...and you know that he is never far from you :o Hope that whatever else you are dealing with turns out for the best and to the Grace of God.

    Chin up my friend...you are special to so many people, so hang in there with us...sending you huge hugs for just being YOU!!

    P.S. Love the pin box...and Tanya is a great designer, isn't she?? And I live for your tutorials my friend, LOL!!


    Happy Stitchin'
    Terri

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  83. What a great new project you've created! I always know where to go looking for tut's that are easy for this thick skull to grasp. I'm sorry that people fling their harsh words so quickly, and especially when they come into contact with someone as sweet and lovely as you! Wishing the arms of all your cyber friends could surround you for a great big group hug!!

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  84. Vonna - I did not get to comment on your "cake" finish - the cube is so cleaver and really shows off the stitched piece. The Ort box is awesome as well. You are just so creative - what a god given gift. Well it's Friday - time to leave all the negativity behind - don't waste another minute - 73 positive comments will tell you that you are loved and respected by so many. YGG - just relish the day Mel

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  85. Boy that was alot of scrollin' down I had to do to post my comment, I see LOTS of love here! Which is not surprising! You are one loveable gal! We love your blog and your stitching and all that you do for this blogging community, don't let Ms. Anonymous get to yah! She's not worth the trouble! Click delete and move on! =) I know how those kinda negative comments can hurt though. It's happened to me too! I am praying for you in this dark time, of remembering Ben. You are loved!!!! And don't you forget it!!! ::hugs::

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  86. I say smack her with your knick knack. Bahaha! Keep on keepin' on girl. You know the people who matter love you like cream cheese on a bagel. Smooches girl!

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  87. Vonna, I love your blog, stories of your family, your projects, and your finishing. I would hate to see you quit blogging because of the frustration you must feel after writing this post. Please know that the majority of your readers adore you and are inspired by you and your work. Here's a pat on the back and a hug. Keep up the good work.

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  88. Vonna - just want to say how much I love your blog and how special and helpful your tutorials are. It makes me so happy to open my reader and see a note from you. Please hang in there for those of us who you make so happy. I am going to comment more often and let you know how much I appreciate you. Thanks for sharing your love of stitching and your talent with your fellow stitchers. Thank you. Cindy. Cynthia.earnhardt@gmail.com

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  89. Vonna, Thank you so much for your inspiring stitching. The world is a better place because of generous people like yourself. Keep your chin up don't let the moaners of the world get you down. Joy to you and your family.
    Carol, Australia.

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  90. Vonna, I thank you for your tutorials as you make finishing so easy. Please don't worry about the nay-sayers - enjoy the blessings of those who love you. I know you miss your brother but he resides with God now - what a joy for him.
    Please continue to stitch, blog and teach the world to finish!

    Happy Stitching!

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  91. Vonna, my cousin told me of your blog and I've spent the last couple of weeks reading it from Day One. Thank you so much for taking the time to write it and all the tutorials for those of us that need it. I'm so sorry you've been dealing with insensitive comments lately.
    Kris from TX

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  92. Vonna, you have absolutely nothing to apologise for or to feel bad about. Anonymous commenters should be banned! How cowardly is it to criticise without giving your name. Your generosity in sharing your tutorials should be celebrated not condemned.

    Thank you, thank you, thank you for helping me to finish my stitching better.

    hugs, Kaye xoxox

    http://kittenstitching.blogspot.com

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  93. I want to publicly thank Vonna for being such a giving stitcher. Early into my exchange stitching, I had a question on how to finish a project. Miss Vonna promptly answered my question and gave wonderful instructions also. My question is why a handful of stitchers find they must post negative comments to a blog at all?

    Thanks Vonna for sharing your stitching, finishing expertise, and your wonderful family with us!

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  94. Your blog never fails to motivate me to stitch! I love to see your progress and your pretty home. You are also very generous to share your time and tutorials. Terry in Texas

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  95. First and foremost...my deepest sympathies!! How awlful and it is a chore to remain postive at times.

    Second - isn't there a way to not take anonymous comments? I don't think I would let Ms. A get to you - too bad for her she doesn't recognize an awesome, talented blog when she sees one - one that helps out without a second thought. You don't have to post any of your techniques, but you do!

    Keep stitching! Keep finishing! And to those who don't like what you see on a particular blog - read a different one.

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  96. Vonna -

    Hey! It takes guts and personality to put yourself out there in the world. I'm a freelance writer and every time I hear someone say 'that sucked' or 'I liked that' it's like it's all brand new to me all over again - and I've been doing this for years. So I flatter myself I know a little bit about how you're feeling.

    You hang in there, and in the immortal words of the great theologian and philosopher (Bob Dylan), "you gotta keep on keepin' on."

    Keep stitching. I'm rooting for you... from the looks of your comments, a whole batch of us are.

    Cheers!

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  97. Vonna, sending a big hug in your time of sadness. And we all love you, your tutorials and your blog- I wouldn't waste one more thought on Ms anonymous! Hugs!

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  98. A beautiful perfect finish.
    And yes you are one sweet lady to put all the work into tuturials for us. Thank You!!!
    Shame on those commenters for their rudeness
    I guess we all get them from time to time
    Take Care!
    P.S.
    I was so exciting when I got Jan's email that you were teaching a class at the ToL retreat.

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  99. Sweet friend, I'm in your corner, after all you took my fear of glue away last year - I'm sorry for someone so small to have said unkind words to you - you do not deserve that! And, I so love the new box, thank you for your time, efforts, and teaching ability that I have experienced. Judith

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  100. Dear Vonna:
    Thanks for your ongoing inspiration! Please don't be discouraged. I really look forward to reading your blog. You have such incredible talent. My condolences on the loss of your brother. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Please keep being 'you'. Wanda

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  101. Dear Vonna:
    Thanks for your ongoing inspiration and for sharing your talents with us! My condolences to you on the loss of your brother. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Keep being the 'you' that we adore! Wanda

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  102. I'm so sorry to hear that something like this has happen, Vonna, especially at such a difficult time. No matter how good your intentions are, there are always people in this world who would look at it in a negative way. I hope this doesn't affect you and get you down. Many of us does appreciate your generosity.

    Take care!

    Hugs,
    Veronica.

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  103. (((((((((((((((Vonna))))))))))))))))) I always remember your Ben in prayer, especially in this month. And you and your family, of course. The 'bad' anniversaries are always so hard because people don't see the gaping wound that you carry around in your heart. xoo

    I'm so sorry that you had to deal with nasty comments! It is so easy to hide behind a computer keyboard. I appreciate so much the generosity with which you've shared your finishing talents and think you go above & beyond with helping beyond that. Big hugs to you.

    Lovely finishing on Tanya's new design!

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  104. Vonna: I want you to take just a moment of your day and go to Google and put in Stand by BeBe Winans. I want you to listen to each word, then put your shoulders back and just "Stand".
    You are to me what the song speaks of....know that you are loved and appreciated and that you are an example to all of us...Linda M. Welcome, Mousemaker at Warmth on Etsy who lives in CT, never misses an episode of her favorite blog, and loves the Lord.

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  105. {{{Vonna}}} - I meant to comment on this post the other day, but had trouble with the word verification and ended up giving up trying, so now that I'm in a better mood, I'll try again!

    First of all, I'm sorry again for the loss of your brother - I understand how hard it is on each anniversary. {{{hugs}}}

    I'm sorry that some nasty, cowardly, person has been complaining about how you do things on YOUR blog. Pay them no notice - if they aren't "brave" enough to put their name to their post, they don't deserve your consideration.

    Hang in there!

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  106. Life just gets hard to take sometimes, and you know my heart breaks everytime I think of your family's loss. But you have to know how much your life touches, beautifully I might add, so many people in the blogging community. Keep your chin up and your heart full and know you are loved! ((hugs))

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  107. Vonna, Nice work on the Orts and Ends piece. As for the nasty person who complained, don't let the negative trolls get you down. I, and countless others, really appreciate you sharing your tutorials - and your yummy recipes, too. Focus on the positive, wonderful people in the cyber-stitching community.
    Carolyn

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  108. These anniversaries are, like you said, hard even when they aren't the first thing on your mind. I'm thinking of you.

    You're way nicer than I am. I've come to the decision that if someone hasn't given me an email to reply to, they don't really want an answer. If they do, they'll comment with a name and a way to reply.

    Since finish-finishing isn't my favorite activity, I've never used one of your tutorials, but I appreciate that they're there. Eventually, I'll be stuck figuring out something, and I'll be running to the computer to watch one! So thank you.

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  109. Wow! What alot of support!
    I'd just like to add my voice to all the others drowning out that silly anonymous person.
    I think you're so generous to take the time to show us how you finish your stitching especially as it's all free!
    I bet they wouldn't even get 100 people reading their blog let alone over 100 messages of support on one post :-)

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  110. I saw the picture of your Ben on your blog with the "gift of life" message. Because of some wonderful person like him, my husband received a new heart in 2010. I am so sorry for your loss, and I know his love will live on in all the people he helped. Blessings.

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  111. To one of the most generous, giving, kind hearted individuals that I am so fortunate to call my friend....Thank you for ALL you do...for all the wisdom, knowledge, and kindness that you have sent my way over the course of SO many years. Know that I appreciate ALL that you do and love you for it!

    You are the BEST!

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  112. Ahh, Vonna, in the words of one of my favorite "real" housewives--tell 'em to SUCK IT!
    Just keep up with your beautiful stitching! Unfortunately, not everyone feels the need to play nice!

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  113. Vonna, even though I'm new to your blog, I have so enjoyed your VERY well written tutorials. It's AWESOME that you are so willing to share them! There's always *one* in every crowd, so keep on doing what you do.....

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  114. I've been visiting your blog for some years now and it has always been such an inspiration to me. Your tutorials are so instructive and I've looked at them often. I have never understood that there are people out there who try to spoil it for others. They should try and get busy with useful things.
    I hope times have become somewhat better for you these last weeks.

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